Anything is okay if done for the sake of love, right?
This is honestly my biggest worry. I mean, MD is very expensive in itself. BUT, I wouldn't be nearly 3000 miles away from my family, you know? I start to think, hmmm, well maybe I should find a cute place around here first to see ... what it's even like. To have all the added costs and responsibilities. But then I wouldn't really have a friend to move with, because she definitely doesn't want to stay around here, and then I feel like, well what am I going to do... by myself? LOL, probably end up visiting between my parents houses again, while still paying for my own place If this option falls through with me, she has another opportunity in Hawaii she may want to take. So it's almost a 'now or never' type deal.
Personally, I think I'd be a LITTLE bit more comfortable with the idea of moving to SC or NC. I also have family in both states (well, one set of non-blood related 'grandparents' let's call them in each state), I like both states (but still like West coast weather better) AND it's much easier to drive to MD from SC or NC then flying from CA. I just kind of know me, and I have a feeling if I'm in CA, I just won't make it home as much as I'd ideally like to (flying with a dog, and just flying in general, etc). But yeah she's not really interested in either of those states.
Personally, I think I'd be a LITTLE bit more comfortable with the idea of moving to SC or NC. I also have family in both states (well, one set of non-blood related 'grandparents' let's call them in each state), I like both states (but still like West coast weather better) AND it's much easier to drive to MD from SC or NC then flying from CA. I just kind of know me, and I have a feeling if I'm in CA, I just won't make it home as much as I'd ideally like to (flying with a dog, and just flying in general, etc). But yeah she's not really interested in either of those states.