I would like to re-iterate just..this.
I had to be on this side.. I really do. But the stress of a new baby (overtired, overworked, busy, stressed) is hard even with a regular happy dog who is OK with children.. the work needed to make a dog like Bamm even acceptably safe around children.. it's not something I would personally put on myself on top of raising a baby. Especially with 2 other dogs to also worry about.
There is work you could do, there are dogs I know who are AROUND kids who weren't once the best with kids, and there are dogs who like THEIR children (but none others)..
but it's not a risk I am personally comfortable with. It's not something I would like to always be on alert about. It's the whole lifestyle of the crate and rotate, of being separate, of having to keep and ever watchful eye, of putting on the muzzle, of making sure the baby doesn't do x y z and watching those SUBTLE signs from a dog to make sure things are safe. With a new baby...it's just not an extra stressor I would be able to do. I can't watch for tiny subtle changes in behavior whilst also dealing with a new baby and 2 other dogs...I would be so scared of me missing something and someone getting hurt that I'd end up with a dog in a crate 20 hours a day. That's the truth honestly, I know how I am and that...is not acceptable.
no matter what you are looking at a few DEFINITE factors when said baby arrives
- Your dogs will have less exercise/stimulation than usual (you are busy, you can't move around too much, you are very very tired)
- Your dogs will be separated from you a lot more, likely crated (you are with the baby and can't always have them around or be watching them with a baby in your arms)
- Your dogs will likely be stressed by all the strange smells, sounds and coming from said baby. Plus all the extra people around coming to visit baby.
- You will be tired and stressed (of course affecting them)
All of this, even on "regular" dogs, I've seen lead to some troublesome behavior..with a dog like Bamm
I fear the worst.
I'm a dog walker and I walk a lot of dogs whose families just had babies. Some took to it well once they got used to things, some with borderline anxiety issues are now nervous wrecks.
You also have to deal with the reality of.. the child will change. Getting him used to a newborn isn't getting him used to a toddler.
and your child will have FRIENDS, who will likely want to be around or in the home. Are you ok with having a home with JUST your child? I know it may seem petty but child social politics is just one of those things.. having kids usually means having a lot of kids that aren't in your home AROUND.
I like to think I'm superwoman and that whatever life throws at me I could handle it.
The reality is I am very much human..and I wouldn't want to be adding all that stress of an anxious potentially dangerous dog to raising a child.
More than that, I wouldn't want to be making these kinds of decisions while the baby was around. Putting a dog to sleep is a HORRIBLY PAINFULLY difficult choice... and I hate to say this but I wouldn't want to make that decision while the baby was around or even whilst late pregnancy. I would be stressed enough without that added layer of sadness and pain. I'm usually a "cross the bridge when you come to it" person or "see how he reacts to the actual baby"... but the very idea of dealing with that kind of decision WHILST raising a new born like a dark cloud hanging over this potentially wonderous beautiful start of a new family.. it isn't what I would want.
So I don't think it's odd that you made this thread now because really, it is something that need be thought of now, before anything.
Just my 2 cents as always.