Anyone heard about this woman and her book?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GAel_qRfKx8
http://www.npr.org/2011/01/13/132908322/Battle-Hymn-Of-The-Tiger-Mother
I find it very interesting.
I don't really agree with her style of parenting, but on some of the points, I do. I do believe "Westerners" have been become MUCH too lax with kids and often find young children with NO manners, no respect, no work ethic, so I do see how being a parent like Amy Chua would enstill such ideas, but at the same time, I knew a few kids growing up whose parents were SUPER strict, like never hardly let them do anything, and they grew up, went off to college, and just completely wigged out - they are all the ones failing out of college, partying all the time, getting high constantly, etc, because it was all kept from them for sooo long and then it's like, they finally leave and it's this WHOLE new world!
I will say I was raised very lax. I never was grounded really, rarely got in trouble, I was often given what I wanted, and I think I turned out to be a very good person. I do however wish that my parents would have maybe made me work a little bit more for certain things, because I will admit that I don't have a great work ethic and it's something I am trying to improve and I think maybe certain things about me could have been different had I been raised with a bit more rules, but at the same time, I have a wonderful relationships with both my parents, enjoy spending time with them, whereas a lot of my friends hardly take the time to even go see their parents anymore.
Basically, I think you could have a kid turn out right from BOTH ways and there is no real "right" way to raise a kid and every one is going to be different, and could turn out the same.
It's hard to say.
Thoughts?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GAel_qRfKx8
http://www.npr.org/2011/01/13/132908322/Battle-Hymn-Of-The-Tiger-Mother
I find it very interesting.
I don't really agree with her style of parenting, but on some of the points, I do. I do believe "Westerners" have been become MUCH too lax with kids and often find young children with NO manners, no respect, no work ethic, so I do see how being a parent like Amy Chua would enstill such ideas, but at the same time, I knew a few kids growing up whose parents were SUPER strict, like never hardly let them do anything, and they grew up, went off to college, and just completely wigged out - they are all the ones failing out of college, partying all the time, getting high constantly, etc, because it was all kept from them for sooo long and then it's like, they finally leave and it's this WHOLE new world!
I will say I was raised very lax. I never was grounded really, rarely got in trouble, I was often given what I wanted, and I think I turned out to be a very good person. I do however wish that my parents would have maybe made me work a little bit more for certain things, because I will admit that I don't have a great work ethic and it's something I am trying to improve and I think maybe certain things about me could have been different had I been raised with a bit more rules, but at the same time, I have a wonderful relationships with both my parents, enjoy spending time with them, whereas a lot of my friends hardly take the time to even go see their parents anymore.
Basically, I think you could have a kid turn out right from BOTH ways and there is no real "right" way to raise a kid and every one is going to be different, and could turn out the same.
It's hard to say.
Thoughts?