Girly Stuff

I'd want a ****buddy if I could be sure that our feelings would never spread north of our genitals. Ain't nobody got time for that.

YES. This! It works! at least for me it did.... On break outs, and mosquito bites!

I agree with everyone else Nolu.... Not this guy. He sounds way too pushy. Actually (if Jess sees this she'll lol) he sounds like Wayne, and I let it go on and it got worse and ugly Not respecting boundaries (note to self- no matter how much he apologizes or says he'll change) is a HUGE warning sign IMHO.


My girly thing to add to this thread today is, I am trying a honey+olive oil treatment for sun damaged hair. I love how light my hair has gotten, but not how dry & frizzy so I hope this helps my hands are incredibly soft, and the bathroom floor is slippery :rofl1: I rinse in about 10 minutes. So we'll see....
I swim M-F and I use chlorine shampoo but mostly the conditioner. And I only condition when I'm showering, I feel like my hair is having color and texture mood swings :rofl1: I had to cut off an inch because the ends were so fried sad face because I want my hair to grow out long!

RD, move. Woman up and just do it! If anything, I know cars aren't really your "thing" but there's a not-sales position open at my dealership. I think it pays decent and if nothing else, would be income until you did find the job you like. You wouldn't have to deal with customers at all.

Plus theres' me, Nolu and Annie out here...along with Taqroy...winkwink nudgenudge

Yep... it's not as weird as it sounds (and this coming from somebody who doesn't even like tampons.) I wish it had worked out for me, it really wasn't bad or anything. I had a sticker on my calendar for when I needed to replace it. Since we were using it for endometriosis I used it without the break week, so old one out, new one in, move on with my life.

Only one time did I have it actually kinda curl up on itself and got slid pretty far back I was afraid I couldn't get it out... but uh. I managed to dig it out. =P Normally though, it's pretty big, so it doesn't go back THAT far and it won't get lost or anything, haha.

I would recommend trying NuvaRing before something more permanent just because if it doesn't work, the whole "march down to the bathroom and yank it out, now it's out and done" thing is... well, it's quite nice. When I finally linked the growing depression I was having to the NuvaRing, I did just that. I woke up the next morning feeling better than I had in months, and it steadily got better over the next few weeks. Much better than having to wait for a doctor to remove something, or just being stuck with it until it wears off like the shot.

I volunteer for this position. I have ALL the qualifications. :rofl1:

Step 1: Move to CO.
Step 2: Get referred to great job.
Step 3: Get laid.
Step 4: ????
Step 5: Profit.

We're awesome! Seriously. And Zoom or I could get you a job ASAP.

Just all of this.

And this. Despite that I have an SO(that started out as more of a FWB sort of...thing. Ish. Long complicated story.), the last few months has completely burnt me out on the whole love and relationship thing. And I'm into chicks more now than guys. I really don't want it, and I feel guilty for not wanting it. Because he is great and all, honestly. No reason why it shouldn't work out. And I keep riding it out hoping I'll eventually recover and be okay again. And that isn't fair. But what if I break it all off, **** blows up and gets ugly, then I decide that is actually what I wanted? Then I'm stupid.

Which is all just another reason to move out to CO. I know people out in CO, but I don't know anyone in CO. If that makes sense. Clean slate. And pretty mountains.

Also.

My hair feels so gross and terrible and I don't know how to fix it. I've tried protein, not washing, CO washing, deep conditioner masks. Everything. Except letting go of the red. Red hair....or fried hair...awesome hair...or healthy hair...why must this be a choice?

There is nothing wrong with it. It is a huge part of his life, heck it dictates his life. And if you want to be, or are, part of his life, it will influence your life as well. Be it that you are his girlfriend and he is in Japan and you can't see him... or even if he comes back stateside, most likely he'll be going to a MC base and still a good distance away from you.

You do not have to be afraid of the girls who only marry military members for the benefits or the stable job. Yes, there a lot of women who do that, but if you do not mingle (and you'll know pretty quickly how to spot them - it's fairly easy) with them and keep "good" contacts, you'll be fine. Maybe because the community of the Marine Corps is a smaller one, it's fairly easy to know who will be good support and who will just cause trouble.

People have joked that I only married Dan for the greencard, but other than that, like I said, I don't think most people will assume that you are a "tag chaser", the ones are just very different (and are usually not ones who work hard and go to school, etc., if you catch my drift )

Dan and I dated before he joined the Marine Corps, but I did not know anything about the Marine Corps at all being from Germany and all. It will influence your life. Where you live, when he has to be at work (all odd hours), what he can wear, what he says in public, etc... so that is definitely something to be aware of. We lived on and off base and even if you live off base, you'll still be part of the community, if you want or not. But in our case, that was never a bad thing. The support I experienced in the Marine Corps before, during, and after Dan deployed was huge. I did have a "friend" who started screwing around after her husband left for deployment and I simply stopped hanging out with her. Simple as that.

One warning though - plenty of Dan's buddies, especially when overseas, had girlfriends on the side who they all visited when stateside. But you know him better than anyone else, so I'll leave it at that

I need someone to kick my butt for me please.

My PCOS is acting up bad lately- just symptoms getting worse and all that. I keep saying I'll go in once I lose some weight but I can't lose weight without being on meds for my PCOS but I'm disappointed I gained so much weight that I let myself run out of medicine and haven't set up a new Dr's appointment to refill my meds....

Why am I being so silly? I feel stupid. :/

(((((((HUGS))))))))

What are you on now? And how do you feel?

Talked to the ex about it, and he nailed it. He said it sounds like he took a how to talk to women and get dates course. Apparently the "asking" for a hug before actually hugging you is some technique that you use so that you don't seem creepy and because most women are non-confrontational, they just go along with it.

It worked for me.

GET ON CHAT WOMAN. Please.

This.

My step brother is in special forces in the Army. He joined when he was 18 and is still in at 42. He and his wife have been married for years and they started living off base as soon as they could. She did recently decide to retire early but before that has always worked.

As far as birth control, I'm a pill girl. Tried Depo, tried Nuva ring (maybe I'm oddly shaped, but it always felt like it was sitting too low), and DH doesn't care for condoms. At some point I'll likely start opting for the "pull and pray" method, but I'm in a situation where pregnancy wouldn't be the end of the world.

Anyone have any tips on how to make fine, wavy hair look cute-wavy rather than limp-frizzy-wavy?

And I totally missed this. I volunteer for all the things.

I could totally be a car person, I just currently don't have the money to be a car person. >.> I learn about machines really quickly, I went from being a computer dunce to building my own machines in the span of about two weeks. Now that I don't live in Mexico where driving off a narrow road on the side of a cliff could lead to death on impact, I actually rather enjoy driving, also.

I am just waiting for a bit of heartbreak or a total mental meltdown to be the boot shoving my ass out of Ohio. I spent so many years in the lap of luxury being the picture of mental instability, and now when I need a good freak-out, I'm too goddamn stable and level headed! WTF scumbag brain?

Edit: Girly stuff! This has been my FB profile pic for a couple weeks but this is the most recent photo of me that actually shows my hair. It's purpler, now. As soon as I henna it again, it'll go back to a dark auburn with more red tones, but as soon as the excess pigment washes out, it bounces back to burgundy which I LOVE. You can see the light red (and then yucky grey-blonde) at my roots, but after an application or two the roots adopt the color of the rest of my hair.

I just wish it didn't smell like wet hay and cow plops. I'd henna a lot more if it smelled like cinnamon rolls.



Oh, more girly stuff. Rihanna's reb'l fleur perfume? Amazing on my skin. Out of the bottle and when first applied, it's super patchouli-y and overpowering. After about 10 minutes it settles down and smells sexy as HELL. I love it on my skin.

On my friend's skin all I smell is patchouli and cat pee, so it might not be good for everybody.

I tried to for you you! My Java wont update.

And now at 10am it works.

Booo. I had the same problem for a while, though. Someone told me everyone is on yahoo these days, so I downloaded yahoo.

Also thanks to Grace I now reeeeeeally want cinnamon rolls. But it's okay, because the hair totally should smell like cinnamon rolls when it looks that good.

I really need to just give it up and henna my hair.

Go pick up a bottle of Kenra chelating shampoo. I find it at Beauty Brands. Mix 1 tsp of baking soda with a dollop of the shampoo in your hand and then thoroughly massage into your hair. Let it sit for a few minutes while you shave or whatever. Rinse. Follow up with conditioner, including on the scalp. Really massage it in there; you'll probably notice that your conditioner suds up. That's all the crap it's helping pull off your hair. Rinse well, until the water runs clear. Use your normal shampoo on your scalp again, rinse well, then condition the ends as usual. If you feel that your hair still isn't feeling all that nice, do the baking soda/chelating shampoo again. Shampoo/condition/shampoo/condition. It takes a while, but it works well to get hair feeling like hair and not straw again.

I've also starting to use AG conditioner. Sulfate/paraben free and it makes my hair feel awesome again! I too get my hair dyed red and since I"m outside in the very dry Colorado air and since there is a crap ton of construction going on, plus the hot temps, there is a huge amount of icky debris stuff just floating around in the air, which then latches on to my hair.

You really don't have to know about cars to start with. We have two positions opening at my dealership. One is in the detail bay, because apparently it's harder than it should be to clean a car so the windows are actually, you know, clear and not streaky as hell because the same rag got used for both body shine and then the windows. :wall: The other is taking the incoming calls on the sales line and getting them to come in for appointments. You get paid some type of hourly plus a set amount for each appointment you set that ends with a sale. It racks up pretty quickly and it's literally following a script for the most part.

So move already.

Sigh........

Sometimes I wish I was single again so I could have hook ups, booty calls & **** buddies I would never cheat but sometimes I miss certain aspects of my single life.

Funny, I read this whole thing thinking, "Man I'm glad I'm married and don't have to deal with any of that. It sounds stressful and frustrating."