I didn't want to go into details, but I see I'll have to in order to justify something that I really should not have to justify to anyone.
Everything you're saying about a Fila... my pup is not. My pup has NO independence AT ALL. He will not leave my sight. He will not let ME leave his sight, without pitching a fit. To sum it up on one word - this dog is obsessed. When I say that he is soft, I mean that if I even look at him wrong, he falls over himself, half-rolling over and half trying to keep eye contact with the tip of his tail wagging... begging for forgiveness for something he didn't even do. When I try to train him, he just falls into me and stares at me with lovey eyes. When I try to move, he leans into more. I should video it... I have NEVER met a dog like this in my life. And honestly - I don't know what the hell to do with it. No matter HOW I act to him, he does the same thing - falling over himself and me, staring at me like a lovestruck puppy... which I guess he is. Renee... you say it nicely when you say their intensity is beyond. I need a dog who can think on its own and show some independence... and this puppy has not, ever. And it's only getting worse. So yes, I am sorry if I was unprepared for the extreme level of devotion exuded by this dog. NOTHING I have read about them, including pages and pages about "owner devotion" could have prepared me for this. I consider Ruger devoted - he checks in with me, he loves me... he is devoted. This puppy cannot function without me at his side, and it's made life hell for both of us.
ETA: I should add that things are being sorted out as the breeder got into contact with me.