Chaz Moms and Moms-to-Be Chat (everyone welcome)

I think the part I have a hard time with is Blake is a really adavanced baby. I don't want to see him pass Briggs in development.

Taqroy, she doesn't like being naked but we had it super warm in there with a space heater blowing on her. That being said, she hated the photo shoot and screamed the whole time. She hates not being held (something we are now working on after yesterday) so every time we tried to set her down, she woke up and wailed. It was awful. LOL

Coconut oil is great for diaper rash too. Which I haven't had to deal much with thank goodness.

How many weeks are you MM? You shouldn't have to be induced until 42 weeks as long as you and baby are doing fine.

I understand , the twins are more advanced then Caleb and there is a whole decade between them .

Just realize there is no comparison. ever. that is hard for new mothers to do , I did it for a long time , it is natural to look to your kids and compare them to others. even more so when you know something is different and still exploring what all the differences are. Just remind yourself that while Blake will do a.b.c better there will also be X.y.z. that Briggs will master and Blake will struggle with.


Calebs hand eye coordination blows me away , he is the best in Temple run getting MILLONS of points before he dies . the others in the house can only get about half his score. We can all spell school though , even the 4 yr olds .
I can ask Caleb how you spell it and he will say Skowl.


Please look into a support group , they help. Even to just talk to someone who is going through the same thing. Ideas bounced off each other. and to not feel alone. HUGS HUGS

Grieve for the boy you hoped he would be and alter that vision a little into the boy he will become and hold onto that one.

Grieve for the boy you hoped he would be and alter that vision a little into the boy he will become and hold onto that one.

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

At what pain level should contractions be worrisome? ):