Originally Posted by Red.Apricot
I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't believe people are people and can be friends with whomever they choose. We just wouldn't be compatible.
This is how I see it as well.
I'm single at the moment, but the way I see it is that I already have a life complete with my own interests, dreams, traditions, values, friends/loved ones etc. They are pretty special to me and I value them highly.
There is heaps of stuff that I consider to be inconsequential and that I'd be happy to work with/compromise. But my relationships are not - they are a part of me. That includes my friends, family, dogs. I'd not take kindly to someone telling me who I can and cannot see or what I can or cannot do.
I can be a very giving, generous person and I have a lot of time for the folks I value in life, but I also have a very low tolerance for possessiveness and related bullshit.