Finding a guy when you don't really go 'out'

[crazedACD]

Haha, I'm in the same boat as you guys. I don't know many people around here to 'go out' with. I found the online thing to work pretty well. I'm kind of nervous about bringing up the big things (is it too soon? Do I sound like a clinger? etc ) so it was nice to get the big things out of the way first (must love dogs, must hate kids ). I will probably end up doing that again when I make it to AZ.

I came to the realization some time ago though that it is very hard to seriously date if you are both living with your parents. And not just sex (though that is hard too), but if we wanted to make dinner and eat together...there's always someone else around. My last boyfriend we were just shut into each other's bedrooms and didn't spend much time together just hanging out.

[milos_mommy]

My first boyfriend I met through friends...I wasn't someone who "went out" or met new people a lot, but he was a friend of friend in high school, and he went away to college, but came back for the summer and came to a small gathering...we were basically in the same circle of 8 or so friends.

The next guy I dated....was the best friend of a guy I meet in a psych ward. So...not much help.

I have some friends I met on craigslist, via book clubs, and one I met on OKCupid (just looking for friends). Also, when my ex and I split up for a summer, I went out a few times with a guy I met....through a friend. She met him when her ex boyfriend mixed his record, and introduced us to each other when my foster got adopted and thought she should take me to play with his dog to cheer me up.

I've also been asked out by a few guys from my (very large) college...a guy from work...a guy I met at a memorial day barbecue. Basically, I just meet people when I do things. If your friends mention a guy friend....tell them to invite him out with you all. Even if he's not single or not interested/interesting, he probably has other guy friends who are. If you go bowling with girlfriends and see a group of guys at the next lane, ask if they want to split a pizza. Meetups, classes, groups, etc. are a good way to meet new people.

[FG167]

My fiancé and I met via a GSD forum. I was looking for a GSD and a Corgi and he was researching Dutch Shepherds.

That being said, we just moved to a new state and are workaholics that have no friends I'm incredibly home sick and lonely (we are driving back to TN from MI right now), and was seriously thinking the same thing! I am looking at taking a photography class or workshop and also maybe joining a running group. I am interested in learning a defense sport but can't commit to a certain time schedule due to work

[Fran27]

Yeah, meeting new friends is just as hard as meeting a boyfriend it seems, lol.

[milos_mommy]

Honestly I think meeting friends is harder than meeting guys. It seems like 90% of women are only interested in trying to find a boyfriend (at least around here), anyway.

[PWCorgi]

I met Ryan on here, lol.

That probably doesn't help.

[Beanie]

Originally Posted by PWCorgi

I met Ryan on here, lol.

That probably doesn't help.

I have been TRYING to meet a guy on dog sites and at agility. I watched Dave Munnings' DVD and was like "Where are THESE guys when I go to trials?? Cute British guys with border collies?? I WOULD DATE THESE GUYS."
*flips table*

[Fran101]

Best advice I ever got when it comes to the whole dating thing?
Work on you. Do what you love and pursue your interests, get out there and do stuff that doesn't suck with people who don't suck.. the significant-other thing will work itself out.

I've never met a boyfriend when I was looking for one lol

[Julee]

I met my dude on a reptile site (Pangea, for any reptile people :P) in '09.

[FG167]

Originally Posted by Fran101

Best advice I ever got when it comes to the whole dating thing?
Work on you. Do what you love and pursue your interests, get out there and do stuff that doesn't suck with people who don't suck.. the significant-other thing will work itself out.

I've never met a boyfriend when I was looking for one lol

This!!!!! Totally agree!

Trying to follow this for friends too...