Stephy's midnight musings/updates

[Renee750il]

Originally Posted by Bunny82

Maybe I see the world through rose colored glasses but I have sympathy for Stephy's situation. Could it be misplaced? Sure. I dont know Stephy at all. Ive never spoken to her save for commenting to her thread twice (this being the second time) but rather than doubting her I choose to care.

It does not cost me anything to be nice. In life I have tons of regrets, I am sure I will have many more..But one thing I have never regretted and never will was showing kindness or compassion to someone that seemed in need even if in the end it was misplaced.

Thank you. <3

[sassafras]

It's not about worrying about looking like a dummy. It's about ("what I call") enabling being harmful to the person being enabled. I wouldn't buy an alcoholic friend or acquaintance a bottle of Wild Turkey to be "supportive." Nor do I feel it's mentally healthy to encourage and support this kind of unhealthy attention-seeking.

I don't think anyone doesn't think that Stephy has problems she needs help for. But what some people think is helpful, I think is harmful.

[Dogdragoness]

Originally Posted by darkchild16

and sometimes people are seriously hurting and can use a little less of the bullshit everywhere they turn around.

Hey ... Everyone hurts, that's life. I think everyone would be a little more sympethetic if she TRIED to help herself, but she has had chance after chance, friends have tried to help her, I. Face the friend she says was "false" sounded like (to me) that she stuck her neck out to try to help her & she got it guillotined from this end it sounded like her friend was trying to be a GOOD friend & got burned if a friend did that to me, he's it would **** me off.

I see no jackasses here, only some very blunt, very dry opinions but in all fairness the only one who used any name calling I this thread, was you.

[Doberluv]

Originally Posted by Bunny82

Maybe I see the world through rose colored glasses but I have sympathy for Stephy's situation. Could it be misplaced? Sure. I dont know Stephy at all. Ive never spoken to her save for commenting to her thread twice (this being the second time) but rather than doubting her I choose to care.

It does not cost me anything to be nice. In life I have tons of regrets, I am sure I will have many more..But one thing I have never regretted and never will was showing kindness or compassion to someone that seemed in need even if in the end it was misplaced.

Exactly.

[Doberluv]

Originally Posted by sassafras

It's not about worrying about looking like a dummy. It's about ("what I call") enabling being harmful to the person being enabled. I wouldn't buy an alcoholic friend or acquaintance a bottle of Wild Turkey to be "supportive." Nor do I feel it's mentally healthy to encourage and support this kind of unhealthy attention-seeking.

I don't think anyone doesn't think that Stephy has problems she needs help for. But what some people think is helpful, I think is harmful.

How do you know it's merely attention seeking and not reaching out for help? Are you a psychiatrist? Even then, without knowing her more, how can you assume it's enabling or the same thing as giving an alcoholic a drink? If someone is feeling desperate and reaching their hand up for someone to grab hold of, have someone be encouraging... is that enabling? If someone were about to fall off a cliff and all you had to do was throw them a rope or reach your hand to pull them back, would that be "enabling?" Is enabling a bad thing? Enabling someone to live?

[Lyzelle]

Didn't even read the whole thread. But there sure are some catty bitches on this forum. If anything, I hope you breeders, rescuers, and "friends" are proud of how you've publically displayed yourselves. Chaz isn't any place for friends or a needed vent. It's a witch hunt. I wouldn't trust any of you with anything, god forbid your advice about anything.

[Jules]

But help and support and all that has been given... What comes back are threads about mashed potatoes and catty girlfriend's of a studio roommate. There is nothing to grasp other than stories, pretty words spun into a dramatic story. And even her pictures are not of herself. So what is true and what is catfish?

I am all for helping someone in need - but there has got to be something tangible to a story. Would you donate to someone coming here claiming their dog needed funds for a surgery without having proof that the story is true?

[Doberluv]

Originally Posted by Jules

But help and support and all that has been given... What comes back are threads about mashed potatoes and catty girlfriend's of a studio roommate. There is nothing to grasp other than stories, pretty words spun into a dramatic story. And even her pictures are not of herself. So what is true and what is catfish?

I am all for helping someone in need - but there has got to be something tangible to a story. Would you donate to someone coming here claiming their dog needed funds for a surgery without having proof that the story is true?

But I'm not donating money. Just me. And that's for free and doesn't cost me a thing. If it helps, great. If it doesn't because it's all a sham, then....oh well. At least I know I have the ability to try.

[Linds]

Originally Posted by Lyzelle

Chaz isn't any place for friends or a needed vent. It's a witch hunt. I wouldn't trust any of you with anything, god forbid your advice about anything.

I just wanted to say I find this completely and utterly untrue. I've made some wicked vents on here and made some even more amazing friends on this forum.

[Danefied]

Originally Posted by sassafras

It's not about worrying about looking like a dummy. It's about ("what I call") enabling being harmful to the person being enabled. I wouldn't buy an alcoholic friend or acquaintance a bottle of Wild Turkey to be "supportive." Nor do I feel it's mentally healthy to encourage and support this kind of unhealthy attention-seeking.

I don't think anyone doesn't think that Stephy has problems she needs help for. But what some people think is helpful, I think is harmful.

I think this pretty much sums it up for me.

I feel tremendous compassion for Steffy, but enabling her is not a compassionate thing to do. It's self-serving, doesn't help Steffy at all.

Originally Posted by darkchild16

and sometimes people are seriously hurting and can use a little less of the bullshit everywhere they turn around.

I think we could all use a little less BS in our lives.
I've seen chaz turn on folks with some serious venom. For all we know some of those folks were hurting as much if not more than steffi, they just didn't voice it online.
If compassion is only reserved for those who put out the most effort in to advertising their misery, then we're a sorry lot indeed.