Roommate etiquitte?

[AdrianneIsabel]

Originally Posted by Renee750il

If you're couch camping out of the goodness of someone's heart, yeah, be grateful and suck it up.

When you've paid half the rent and utilities it buys you some cooperation and compromise.

Honestly I am of the grateful no matter what camp.

Our roommate in the house we owned annoyed us frequently but she paid half our mortgage. She was never given a lease, she paid her money, and she bitched a lot. Then again we're not easy to live with with our dogs so we sucked it up and we were grateful she was there and even though we could afford the whole payment we didn't have to if she was around.

Being gracious, grateful, or the like doesn't mean you can't discuss guidelines, in fact that type of attitude tends to encourage compromise in the other party. Leveraging leases and payments only builds resentment and we're not willing to live with people we resent (beyond a reasonable timeline), life is too short to be unhappy.

We've made the choice to not have a roommate this time and suck it up and pay the whole mortgage ourselves. Why live in a frustratingly toxic home if you don't have to?