Chaz Moms and Moms-to-Be Chat (everyone welcome)

[darkchild16]

Originally Posted by Grab

I'm having a really difficult time gathering whether you're being intentionally dense or if you're actually that oblivious. I am not certain what would be more sad.

No one cares if you think pregnant bodies are hideous. No one cares if you ever have children. We all have opinions. What is being taken offense to is that you are in a thread for and about pregnancy. You're in a thread meant for people to discuss diapers, feeding and the like and have taken every opportunity to tell people how gross it is and to insinuate as to how stupid they were to reproduce. Because, after all, who would want to carry a fetus around, have a belly, feed a kid and deal with normal bodily functions.

You seem to be surprised that no one shares your view when, again, you are essentially in a 'yayyy pregnancy' thread.

If people went into a 'How awesome is it to wear ill fitting clothing while shopping at Walmart?!" thread and blasted people for their clothing choices, they too would not be thought well of.

This a thousand times THIS!

Honestly I could care less if you wear ill fitted clothes but make sure your private areas are covered since its usually a rule for any store I go into.

[Romy]

FWIW, pregnancy actually enhanced my body. For reals. Before I was really lean and toned, but didn't have much of a figure. After two kids, I'm still really lean and toned. Got away with no stretch marks or varicose veins, but now I actually have boobs!

Even if it "ruined" my looks (which I don't think is possible to do to someone. Someone could have a mastectomy or whatever and still be gorgeous) it would be a million times worth it to have my children. They are the most amazing people in the world and I'm blessed to share my life with them. <3

[Romy]

Originally Posted by Taqroy

I don't have any suggestions but after reading through that and this: http://www.babycenter.ca/pregnancy/a...vicgirdlepain/ I'm reasonably certain I don't just have "back pain" like my awful first doctor said. Ugh. I've been getting little lightning bolt tingle pains down the insides of my legs and pain in my back/pelvis. Is that what you have? Honestly the main thing that bothers me is that I CAN'T lay on my back - because once I do I have a really hard time turning because it hurts so bad. And I don't really want to lay on my back but it's a necessary step for turning from one side to the other (and reading in bed).

It's not really good to lay on your back during pregnancy anyway because the uterus will put too much pressure on the big artery along your spine.

I had that really bad with both kids, mostly in my leg/hip that was previously injured.

A really good chiropractor that was familiar with treating pregnant women helped a lot. I had two pregnant massages but that was really early on before the shooty pains started.

What helped the most was laying on my side with a nice fluffy pillow between my knees. And flinching a lot when shooty pains happened. lol

[AllisonPitbullLvr]

I must say, if my body goes to hell and someone like you takes issue with how I look, it would not make me feel bad for a second.

What's sad to me is people who live such vain and shallow and conceited lives that they place more value on the looks of their fellow woman than their hearts.

I think your views on pregnancy, motherhood and what really matters in the grand scheme of things are sad, shallow and, quite frankly, rather pathetic. (No offense.)

"The truest characters of ignorance are vanity and pride and arrogance."
Samuel Butler

[sparks19]

Originally Posted by Dogdragoness

I don't recall using the word disgusting.

I have liberal left winged views on the subject, & I expressed them. I I have an issue with it, I do not care for kids, I do not understand why someone would want to have them which is all I said.

Ok let me try to present this another way...

you mentioned in another thread about how you got a bunch of flack for not wanting kids and you didnt' like it.

Well... now you are the one giving flack for people wanting kids. You are BEING the people you complained about.

[Taqroy]

This is going to be an extremely random assortment of quotes that caught my eye. Lol.

Originally Posted by Paige

Did I share my small feat fro myesterday? Tandem wearing Briggs and Blake to and from the playground. I even managed to get a very grumpy Briggs onto my back.

LOVE. I want to do wraps and slings in the worst way. What would you recommend for a complete noob? I'm probably going to make a wrap and we will be buying a soft structured carrier for hiking and whatnot, but I also want something...I think the term is poppable? Would a ring sling work for that?

Originally Posted by Grab

I'm having a really difficult time gathering whether you're being intentionally dense or if you're actually that oblivious. I am not certain what would be more sad.

Pretty much this. If you don't get it after everyone's been beating you with clue by fours, you're either really oblivious or trolling.

Originally Posted by Romy

It's not really good to lay on your back during pregnancy anyway because the uterus will put too much pressure on the big artery along your spine.

I had that really bad with both kids, mostly in my leg/hip that was previously injured.

A really good chiropractor that was familiar with treating pregnant women helped a lot. I had two pregnant massages but that was really early on before the shooty pains started.

What helped the most was laying on my side with a nice fluffy pillow between my knees. And flinching a lot when shooty pains happened. lol

I was talking to my new doctor about this - she said that I shouldn't run into any problems until 26 weeks. Laying on my back makes me feel like my hips are out of alignment. I had problems with it pre-pregnancy but only when laying on a hard surface. Maybe it's an adjustment issue?

My current favorite position is on my left side with my right leg pulled up as far as I can get it. I've kneed Matt in the back three or four times in the middle of the night LOL.

Originally Posted by AllisonPitbullLvr

I must say, if my body goes to hell and someone like you takes issue with how I look, it would not make me feel bad for a second.

Word.

[Fran101]

Originally Posted by Laurelin

I think we're reading two different things.

Saying 'Oh I just have a different opinion than you' when you insult someone is a cop out imo.

This.

There is a different between being honest, and being a total bitch.
the different ladies and gentleman is TACT. With perhaps some manners and empathy for other human beings if you have any.

Sadly, those (like me) who don't think kids are in their future.. are judged HARSHLY because of people like you who don't want them and go out of their way to be rude to those who do.

Nobody cares if you don't want kids or don't like the idea of pregnancy.
but to go out of your way to make those who have made that choice feel bad, is rude and pathetic.

Do you have any idea how many mothers suffer from post partum depression or become seriously depressed while they are pregnant? Many. Being a mother and creating a child INSIDE YOUR BODY is not easy.
I would sincerely hope that you keep your remarks to yourself in public and try not to add to their troubles with your horrible attitude.

Your body WILL CHANGE. Sorry, that's nature. Get pregnant or not..it will change. So I highly suggest you get off your high horse and stop judging others based on their BMI score and start to work on the issues you very obviously have going on inside of that body of yours.

I understand you are in a less than healthy relationship and that has likely changed your views on how you see yourself, others, happy people..and probably soured you to a lot of it.
but taking it out on others is not going to help you.

I would highly suggest you get some professional help.

[Dogdragoness]

Fine, whatever I'm out, I'm sure that'll make all of you happy.

Look I said I was sorry for being insensitive ok? Geeze it's you guys who won't forget it, we'll I forget it, I'm done.

[AllisonPitbullLvr]

But you didn't apologize, not really.
You tiptoed around it, tried to justify it, explain it away, deflect the issue. Not really signs of feeling contrite IMO.

[Fran101]

sometimes I forget kids are awesome