Returning a dog to the breeder - Questions/Rant

[AdrianneIsabel]

Oh man, that broke my heart...

[Doberluv]

I'm glad this Fila pup is safe and in a good home. But I fear for future dogs of hers. I highly doubt that anything will change because I strongly suspect a personality disorder of some kind. The prognosis for those is generally very poor. I see some features of Cluster B personality disorders....the obvious lack of empathy, the denial or refusal to own up to the responsibility that was hers, the dissaociation when the phraseology of the post is what she focuses on, not the heart of the matter, not the evidence. That's all disregarded. Unless everyone who has puppies to give or sell knows about this and cares, she will get another puppy. And it's a risk that the same thing will happen if something isn't 'just so' with that puppy. I would hope that relatives or friends would make sure any future puppies are cared for properly.

[Danefied]

Did anyone else get pm’s over this thread?

[Linds]

Originally Posted by Danefied

Did anyone else get pm’s over this thread?

I didn't. What kind of pms?

[JessLough]

Originally Posted by Linds

I didn't. What kind of pms?

Not me.

[sassafras]

Nope.

[yoko]

Originally Posted by Doberluv

I'm glad this Fila pup is safe and in a good home. But I fear for future dogs of hers. I highly doubt that anything will change because I strongly suspect a personality disorder of some kind. The prognosis for those is generally very poor. I see some features of Cluster B personality disorders....the obvious lack of empathy, the denial or refusal to own up to the responsibility that was hers, the dissaociation when the phraseology of the post is what she focuses on, not the heart of the matter, not the evidence. That's all disregarded. Unless everyone who has puppies to give or sell knows about this and cares, she will get another puppy. And it's a risk that the same thing will happen if something isn't 'just so' with that puppy. I would hope that relatives or friends would make sure any future puppies are cared for properly.

I think you hit it on the head. Her post is weird and sounds insanely disconnected.

Originally Posted by Danefied

Did anyone else get pm’s over this thread?

No but now I feel left out XD

Originally Posted by Danefied

Did anyone else get pm’s over this thread?

Yes, from a new member asking about a specific person mentioned in one of my posts, probably not related to anything you got though.

[smkie]

I can't help but feel that a dog has so many chances to bond before they just don't try anymore. First start out the gate, if wishes were horses would be the only one, straight from Mama to a new home that will cherish them until they day they cross the bridge. When they are returned for not being quite right, or a good fit, or for any reason other than a health reason that would be on the breeder for letting them go in the first place, that first chance is robbed from them. Not saying that a dog won't bond again, or even again after that, but I have met too many 3 and four time "losers" not saying the dog is the loser, but the people they came across sure were thinking that a puppy or dog would fit like a puzzle piece and they don't right off the bat. OR the can't handle the now seperation anxieties that have been created by succeeding losses. Making the dog all the harder to place. Each time, less trust, each time, less chance of having that miracle to me of partnership. THEy end up being their own dog, and most people are not looking for that, they are looking for just about the opposite. I wish i had a magic wand to put over all the babies that they have the best luck ever and are received with adoring, patient, and common sense arms. I could like people a whole lot more if that was the case. This puppy has been cheated of round one. I pray with all my heart that round two, will be the opposite.

[Red Chrome]

Originally Posted by Danefied

Did anyone else get pm’s over this thread?

Yes. Tons. I have had phone calls to my vets and trainers, asking them about my dogs.

I have not forwarded the letter I drafted to anyone cause I just haven't taken the time to do it and kind of forgot about it. I will email those who asked.