Originally Posted by release the hounds
what if that was the TRUTH. Ideally, he'd probably would have liked his wife to not up an dleave to another state and take his kids. In an ideal world, he proably wishes he never marriead someone he was going to divorce, but **** happens.
Ideally, he'd probably like to live right next door to his kids, but life isn't really allowing it. His ex took them across the country. he has a life as well, and a job and maybe their whole arrangement works pretty dang well for everyone involved?
maybe someday if his job can transfer it might be an option, maybe that will be 10 years from now, maybe never. maybe they move backnear him, maybe all sorts of things happen between now and then, maybe he is able to realize that someday if that possibility should arrise, he'd be considerate enough to take into account the feelings of whomever he was involved with, if involved to a level that would require a joint decision. Adults can do those sorts of things
Or he's saying what he thinks she wants to hear.
And I know people have already disagreed but gah a month and a half? I get not telling the first date but after a week or two I'd think a giant life affecting incident like having kids would have been brought up.
I have quite a few friends who are parents who are VERY open about having kids. Right from the start. It's a deal breaker for a lot of people so why waste their time? And why waste your time with someone who thinks something that is going to be a part of your life for the rest of your life is a deal breaker?