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Old 05-30-2012, 09:27 AM
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Just want to offer (((hugs)))

I am really really terrified of the idea of drowning and my son, with his personality (no fear, quietly sneaks off, etc) :shudder:.
Thank you.

80% of drownings are males... I guess they are more risk takers than girls.

Odd thing is though, my brother was not at ALL. He was a really quiet, shy boy who never really did much to get into trouble.

I will wonder for the rest of my life what happened that day.

My mom was in real estate, and went over to one of my step-dads "friends" (they weren't really "close") houses to draw up a contract. She brought Connor with her that day (it was June 22nd, so kids were out of school) and my step-dads friend and girlfriend were both there, and her two younger kids were. My mom was actually surprised the friend was even home, usually he worked during the days on Thursdays but was off.

So he says he is bringing her two kids to the pool, does Connor want to come? My mom wasn't comfortable with it - she wanted him to come home, as they had just rented a movie from the redbox, etc, and was just ready to go home. Well of course Connor heard and stated he wanted to go excitedly. My mom tried everything "well he doesn't have his life vest" or "he doesn't have a bathing suit" and the friend kept pushing "Oh I have all of that". Reluctantly, my mom let him go. Which is SO unlike her. She is one of those over-protective paranoid people. She will live with that guilt for the rest of her life... she now knows to follow her instinct always.

She called like five times. Finally the friend says "he's FINE... he's eating a hamburger right now,etc, etc". She decides to just drive to the pool and go pick him up early and surprise him. And that's when she sees the ambulance. Her heart just immediately sank. She knew.

To be honest, we still don't know what happened. I hold a lot of animosity towards this friend personally (but I also did not like him prior to this). He went to the bathroom, like he had done 3 other times during the trip, and took his life vest off. No one knows exactly what happened after that. But also on that day it just so happened that the ONLY lifeguard in the chair was BRAND new - on the job for all of a week. There were almost 50 kids in the pool (however they *were* following state law - 1 lifeguard per every 50 kids - that's the law, which is nonsense). And after he was discovered (according to the autopsy, he was under water for 8-10 mins) the guards did absolutely nothing. The guy who was with him that day pulled him out of the pool. Lifeguard froze, did not even attempt CPR right away. A patron did, and he threw up in her mouth. By the time the ambulance got there, it was just too late. The 911 call even indicates a lifeguard saying "we have a defibrillator - we're not allowed to use it".

Honestly so many things went wrong that day on all fronts, and it pains me to even think about it still. He'll be gone 6 years this June which is just unbelievable really.

But it helps me to know that I can make a difference. I can make a change! And we're doing little baby steps to get there... but we're getting there. And I know it's what Connor would want me to do. He and I were very close, and I'll always miss him, and the what if's. I used to imagine what we'd be like together at these ages (12 and 21) and how cool it would be, for him to have an older sister and he could come hang at my house, we could go to the movies, etc.

It's tough. I'm kind of glad I just wrote that all out. I've been thinking about him more and more with the summer coming up - June 22nd was the day he died, and July 6th would have been his 6th birthday.

Thanks for taking the time to read!
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Old 05-30-2012, 09:30 AM
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Bowlathon! Team up with a local bowling alley, and have a bowlathon! haha I don't know why, but for some reason people LOVE those things
I have been telling my mom this since last year! I think it would be successful too!
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Old 05-30-2012, 09:31 AM
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Also, does anyone know where to find companies that donate to non-profits every year?

I know there's a few businesses who pick a few charities to donate for every year, for tax write off purposes and whatnot, and am not sure how to go about finding them.


I want to get a few donation request letters sent in the mail.
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Old 05-30-2012, 09:37 AM
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(((((Hugs)))))))

I can't imagine anything more devastating!

I am shocked how many people here can't swim, back home we took lessons through school until grade 5, we had to be bussed to the local Y, but as a result almost everyone I knew could at least swim, and had a good grasp of water safety...

Here in Ontario, at least where I am, far fewer people can, and it's not offered at our schools or easy or cheap for parents, so I have to believe that's a huge part of it....

I never understood the fear of water, meaning don't teach your kids to swim... I would think that would make it MORE important! Like your Mom, it's hard but she understood it was important!

Down home the only drownings I know of were fisherman who died usually from hypothermia and two high school girls who were swept to sea during a hurricane when they went out on the rocks to watch the waves (That situation was a lack of respect for the power of the sea, even the strongest swimmer likely would not have made it)
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Old 05-30-2012, 12:04 PM
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This is what I meant. *this video might distress some people, it shows a baby in water alone*

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v0mU...e_gdata_player

I think its great what you're doing good luck.
WOW!!!!! Mind blown!!!

Amazing work raising money for them. I'm sure Connor would be so pleased.
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