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Old 02-05-2012, 07:53 PM
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Sounds right to me, Dak.

I NEVER wanted to be pregnant and fought for years to get a tubal (why is it that docs just will not believe you aren't going to change your mind?) and when I finally got it and quit taking birth control there was this awful, irrational period of time that was thankfully short where some sort of evil biologically programmed script put me in a terrible funk.
Because they're dumb. I have medical reasons to benefit from a tubal ligation/partial hysterectomy, but I've seen several different doctors, and not a single one will even discuss it until I'm 30. So, instead, I get to inject myself with hormones on a regular basis - which is soooo much better.

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Old 02-05-2012, 07:56 PM
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I test every month because I am paranoid after having Briggs.... but my heart sinks every time I see a negative because underneath knowing it's the wrong time I do want another child. If I could throw logic to the wind I would but it's not right for right now. Still, sucks a bit even if on a purely emotional level.

Emotions don't always make sense. *hugs*
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I know this isn't perfect timing. But we could make it work.
I know I want to go back to school, will it be harder after having a child? Yes. But it CAN be done. I know there are a couple of people on here with a child that go to school and a few non-Chaz friends of mine have a child/ren and go to school.

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This is why I have Chloe. lol. I got accidentally pregnant. We were freaking out, it was horrible timing but we came to terms with the idea and then I miscarried. So we got married two months later and got pregnant a month after that. As much as I love my child in retrospect it was a terrible idea and we had been together for about 2 years. Lucky for me everything eventually worked out great and my life couldn't be better now but it almost destroyed our relationship because we just weren't ready. I wasn't ready. I panicked when she was about 5 mos old, felt suffocated, felt like I just woke up one day and suddenly had this life as a wife and mother and I wasn't sure I even wanted it. I had an affair, we almost divorced and that would have been awful for Chloe. It wasn't fair to her for us to hurry in to that stage of life.

Again, LUCKILY it all worked out and now we are happier than ever and things are wonderful but we owed it to her to take our time with that. Also I think I will always wish i had had more time with just my husband AND that I had finished college first. I am really struggling to get through online school while being a SAHM and I don't even know what my marriage is outside of Chloe. I mean, we have our alone time but we still talk about her a lot. It will be interesting to see who we are and how we are together when she is an adult and out of the house. At least we will still be young then, lol.
First of all, (((HUGS))) I am so sorry all of that happened. But I know you would not have it any other way.
But yall are doing great!

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A lot of people go through that despite being in the perfect place though. But I hear you on that! I was dumped, left to be pre gnant and raise my son alone and I didn't even want a kid. It was tough. I love my life but I do not relate to anyone my own age. Even the other mothers as I literally base my entire life around my son. All the other 20 year old moms I know party and have a life outside of their kids. Not me.

Again, none of that is bad. But, kids do tie you down. I say to everyone life goes on with or without kids and it's what you make it BUT it is a lot easier to go experience what the world has to offer first, then settle down with kids as you have to take a lot more into consideration when children are involved.
See, that's my thing... I just turned 21. I do not feel the need, or want to, go our clubbing or drink myself stupid or feel the need to do drugs or anything "normal" women my age want to do.
I traveled a lot when I was younger/teens, I had horses, dogs, my dad. I experienced a lot of things when I was in my teens that most people older than me have never experienced.
I have ALWAYS wanted to be a wife. I knew I wanted children when I younger, but I didn't actually REALLY want them until I was about 16-17.

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I did. My ex (now my boyfriend again... *ducks from rocks*) had broken up with me, and I was so desperate & pathetic that I felt like that was my last ace in the hole. I sprained my wrist (thanks, Rage) and had to go to urgent care - obviously they wanted to do x-rays, asked if there was a chance that I was pregnant, I said yes, and they gave me a test... they told me it was negative and I cried. It was stupid, I didn't REALLY want to be pregnant, but it was just an overwhelming sense of loss for the evening.
Oh goodness, (((HUGS)))

I feel you, on the last part.


Thanks yall. I just... I don't know.
TJ and I keep talking about it, and I think he wishes I'd shut up about it lol, but it is just always on my mind now for the last few days and it is driving me bananas.
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Old 02-05-2012, 07:57 PM
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Because they're dumb. I have medical reasons to benefit from a tubal ligation/partial hysterectomy, but I've seen several different doctors, and not a single one will even discuss it until I'm 30. So, instead, I get to inject myself with hormones on a regular basis - which is soooo much better.

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Its ok
Doctors can be stupid.

I think if I had to inject myself like that, I'd be raising some h3ll.
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Old 02-05-2012, 08:16 PM
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Its ok
Doctors can be stupid.

I think if I had to inject myself like that, I'd be raising some h3ll.
Yup. The injections DO make everything more stable, and I really don't mind them (I'm not squeamish about needles or anything like that), but it would be so much easier if they would just take the whole thing OUT and I could just be done.
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Old 02-05-2012, 08:17 PM
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If I could go back and do it again I would finish school before having a baby. I have had to put it off as I do not want Briggs in daycare when he is this little. One of my friend's is a mom to two little girls (1 and 2) and she is a full time student and really struggles with it and feels terrible for having to leave her littles so much.
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Old 02-05-2012, 08:42 PM
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If I could go back and do it again I would finish school before having a baby. I have had to put it off as I do not want Briggs in daycare when he is this little. One of my friend's is a mom to two little girls (1 and 2) and she is a full time student and really struggles with it and feels terrible for having to leave her littles so much.
This is true.

I would probably do online schooling, with maybe a couple of times a week going to an actual college.
Thankfully, the colleges around here are good about working around your schedule, whether it be work or kids.
Our local college has a daycare in it because its mostly mothers that go back to school. And even though I hate the college itself, the daycare system at the school is freakin awesome.


ETA: Don't get me wrong, if I am pregnant now or if I get pregnant before I go back to college, I would be excited. Tj would be excited. And we would make work in every possible way. I know it can be hard. I do not doubt that for a second in my mind, and I am not like most girls my age who have one or two kids. They drop their kids off at their parents or in laws houses and go party. I could not, and would not, do that.
I think if you lay in bed with someone and get pregnant, you should take up responsibility no matter what. I wish girls my age who already have kids thought like that. Now granted, I know TWO girls who are my age and think like that and do just that. But two vs at least 12, isn't a good ratio to me.

I hope no one takes offense to that, I am basing that off of people I know personally and have known since I was in elementary school.
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Old 02-05-2012, 08:55 PM
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It's totally do-able... but is a lot easier if you do not have children to go to school.

I feel the same way about my kid. I chose to have him and I don't have family who can take him overnight for time with him so I just have him 24/7. I realized the first six months of his life I do not need a support network so I can get away from him. I need a support network where I can be with him and do things with him. Not to say parents shouldn't have breaks. Everyone needs one. 99% of the time though instead of doing something "adult orientated" I take Briggs out to go play somewhere or just wrap him up and go walk to dog. Or because he's so little I will take him do e,to something for me. Like go by new undies and have a starbucks coffee.

He is the best thing to ever happen to me.
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It's totally do-able... but is a lot easier if you do not have children to go to school.

I feel the same way about my kid. I chose to have him and I don't have family who can take him overnight for time with him so I just have him 24/7. I realized the first six months of his life I do not need a support network so I can get away from him. I need a support network where I can be with him and do things with him. Not to say parents shouldn't have breaks. Everyone needs one. 99% of the time though instead of doing something "adult orientated" I take Briggs out to go play somewhere or just wrap him up and go walk to dog. Or because he's so little I will take him do e,to something for me. Like go by new undies and have a starbucks coffee.

He is the best thing to ever happen to me.
This seriously made me cry. Especially when I got to the last sentence.
Don't ask why, but it was sweet and loving I couldn't contain it.
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ETA: Paige if you don't mind me asking, how old are you? I always thought you were my age, but I might be mistaken.
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Old 02-05-2012, 09:34 PM
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I'm a bit younger. I'm 20. I got pregnant with Briggs at 18 and had him two weeks after my 19th birthday.
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I'm a bit younger. I'm 20. I got pregnant with Briggs at 18 and had him two weeks after my 19th birthday.
Oooh. You just present yourself older.

I think we need Briggs pictures
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