My Uncle Died Friday.

[sillysally]

Yesterday morning when I woke up DH told me that my dad had called and my uncle had been found dead. He was at a conference for work in Indianapolis and had started not feeling well. The EMTs were called but my uncle refused treatment a wanted to go back to the conference. Not long after the ambulance left my uncle excused himself to go to the restroom, and when he didn't return they went looking for him and found him unresponsive in the bathroom. They tried to revive him but he was gone.

I am very worried about my dad. He has been unemployed for a couple of years now and has been essentially been supported by my uncle. My uncle didn't have dad on the bank accounts so he has no access to money to even pay bills. Their rent is $800 and due in ten days.

To complicate matter, my uncle was a hoarder. He has 3 rooms and a bathroom in that house piled with random stuff. We were going through stuff last night and found receipts from 1998. He also kept every shopping list he ever wrote. He kept old keys, batteries, pens (tons of pens), etc.

I don't know where dad is going to go. He can't drive after dark because he has a cataract in one eye that he can't afford to have fixed.

[Barb04]

I'm so sorry to hear about your Uncle. I'll send vibes that things turn around for your Dad.

[Baxter'smybaby]

I'm so sorry. It sounds like a difficult situation--I hope things work out ok for your Dad.

[Snark]

So sorry... I hope things work out for your dad. Are there any other relatives? Do you know if your uncle had a will? If your dad is the only next of kin, maybe you can find a lawyer (pro bono) who could get the funds released.

[sillysally]

My uncle has an adopted son. Unfortunately my uncle refused to talk about end of issues, so we have no idea if there is a will. We are sifting through all of my uncles piles of stuff to try to find something.

My dad has a sister about 2 hours away and I am gently trying to nudge him in that direction. The thing is that I have not lived with my dad since I was like, 2 years old, my parents divorced when I was small. Dad is a functioning alcoholic and we have a small house. I wouldn't let him be out on the street, but I just don't think it would work at all for him to be here.

[Renee750il]

Having to untangle so many skeins while grieving is going to be taxing. So many worries amidst sorrow. I am sorry you and your family are having to make your way through this.

[ravennr]

Gosh, I am SO SO SO sorry to hear about your uncle.
I just went through something similar to this with my own father. I wish I had a way to help you! I know how stressful it is to watch your dad go through this.

[Doberluv]

I'm so sorry. Does anybody know what caused his death? Those unexpected and sudden deaths are really hard on loved ones.

And I'm sorry there's such a complicated mess to go through to find out if there's any help for your Dad. So much on the family's plate along with the grief and shock is going to be a struggle for a while. I hope peace and order is found before too long. I'm very, very sorry.

[sillysally]

Originally Posted by Doberluv

I'm so sorry. Does anybody know what caused his death? Those unexpected and sudden deaths are really hard on loved ones.

And I'm sorry there's such a complicated mess to go through to find out if there's any help for your Dad. So much on the family's plate along with the grief and shock is going to be a struggle for a while. I hope peace and order is found before too long. I'm very, very sorry.

It was a heart attack. He did suffer from diabetes and my dad said he had been binging on sweets lately--I found tons of candy wrappers in the trash can in his room. There is a history of heart disease in the family--my grandpa had 2 heart attacks and was killed by the second one and my grandma had a couple heart attacks and angina. Dad said that lately he had been having a hard time walking across t house without being out of breath.

I just can't believe he refused treatment-he had health insurance.

[Doberluv]

Aww...that is so sad. I wonder why he refused treatment. Maybe he was just tired of it all. Poor man...