Originally Posted by Danefied
You've gotten some great advice, but I really recommend working with a professional with a pup with this kind of history, in a relatively novice home, already showing avoidance behaviors, and especially in a house with young kids.
I definitely agree that you should work with a professional even though the "symptoms" are okay and not serious especially since she does okay in the crate.
Since she has not been at your home for a long time, you really want to bond with her rather than making her feel uneasy. Trying to grab her when she's sleeping or forcing her into the crate is definitely not good. Give leash a try.
Patience, patience, patience. A puppy with her unknown background/history may take a while before the fright is gone, especially when she was caught in a trap. Even if she chews up the house, patience, patience, patience.