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Old 06-19-2014, 12:43 PM
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There was another recent story about a child being left in the care and dying. They are looking at a murder charge. Typical responses tend to be things like "How could a good parent do that?" and "He deserves to be locked in a hot car" etc. Lots of "HOw could that ever happen" and "I would NEVER do that".

In discussing this, someone posted this article. Its long. Its heartbreaking. Its very hard to get through. It will affect you...but I think it needs to be read. Its from 2009 but that doesnt really matter...

http://m.washingtonpost.com/lifestyl...a52_story.html
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Old 06-19-2014, 12:49 PM
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I've read so many of those articles... it's heartbreaking. And really not the parents fault. It's just stuff that happens... We've ALL been distracted and gone through the whole 'did I take my meds' or 'did I leave the keys on the door' stuff. ESPECIALLY when overtired, which happens a lot with small children... It's just a brain thing. It doesn't mean that they didn't care or were careless.
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Old 06-19-2014, 02:40 PM
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Heres all I have to say about it.

Last June, I was getting ready to do rescue transport. Leave NC on Friday, drive all night to VT, do adoptions Sat am, spend Sat night and drive back to NC Sunday. It's a crazy weekend. Gambit always goes with me. This was the first time I fostered Quid.

I never drive my own car, since its easier for my father to drop me off then leave the car at the shelter all weekend. But he couldn't that day.

I pulled up to the shelter and got Quid out of the car. Went inside and there was a debate over where Quid should be. Everything is in a flurry, we're trying to get all of the last minute stuff together. I was rattled and off balance.

Almost 20 minutes went by before I happened to glance out in the parking lot and see my car. With Gambit still locked inside, windows up. It's a miracle that I saw him, and that he was not hurt.

That dog is my heart and soul. I would never intentionally harm him. But all it took was one minute, and a few changed details (ie I drove myself instead of being dropped off, I had Quiddich to worry about), and he could have easily died at my hands.

So, yeah, I can see how easily it could happen, and how one parent could lose focus for a few seconds. I intended to get both of them out at the same time. I just...didn't.

If I had been a parent going to work, who wouldn't look at their care the rest of the day...I can't even think about what would have happened.
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Old 06-19-2014, 05:26 PM
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Accidents happen, I get that.
I myself am horribly forgetful at times.
And in the case of forgetting a child in the backseat of a car, I am truly sorry for everyone involved.

What gets me is the stories of people knowingly and willingly leaving their children in a hot car while they go to do something like a grocery shop. Children, unlike dogs, are allowed in stores.
Sure it's more of a pain to unclip the car seat, and bring the kid with. But isn't that part of being a parent?
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Accidents happen, I get that.
I myself am horribly forgetful at times.
And in the case of forgetting a child in the backseat of a car, I am truly sorry for everyone involved.

What gets me is the stories of people knowingly and willingly leaving their children in a hot car while they go to do something like a grocery shop. Children, unlike dogs, are allowed in stores.
Sure it's more of a pain to unclip the car seat, and bring the kid with. But isn't that part of being a parent?
DH and I were at a casino once and there was a sign in the parking lot asking people to please not leave their children alone in the car while they come in and gamble...
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DH and I were at a casino once and there was a sign in the parking lot asking people to please not leave their children alone in the car while they come in and gamble...
It makes me sad that there's even a need for that sign
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Yeah, intentionally leaving a child in for a long trip is just crazy. I DO actually understand it for a super quick run into the gas station or drop something off though and sometimes that can actually be statistically safer....or that poor woman who was trying to get a job and was homeless with no childcare etc.

I just get really sad when I see people really believing these parents (the ones who truly forgot) deserve to be charged with murder, or believe it proves they were unfit parents in the first place etc.
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I just get really sad when I see people really believing these parents (the ones who truly forgot) deserve to be charged with murder, or believe it proves they were unfit parents in the first place etc.
Being a parent to a young child especially, must be incredibly exhausting. And these poor people have to live with the guilt of their mistake for the rest of their lives. I can't even begin to image how broken they must feel to begin with, then to be labelled as cold-blooded murderers?
People sadden and disgust me.
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Yeah, intentionally leaving a child in for a long trip is just crazy. I DO actually understand it for a super quick run into the gas station or drop something off though and sometimes that can actually be statistically safer....or that poor woman who was trying to get a job and was homeless with no childcare etc.

I just get really sad when I see people really believing these parents (the ones who truly forgot) deserve to be charged with murder, or believe it proves they were unfit parents in the first place etc.

Actions have consequences even if they are "accidental".


I'm not bothering to judge others, but in speaking for myself, I've been stressed out to unbelievable proportions and going through heaven knows what, yet I have never ever forgotten my child in a car.

Just because someone feels guilty doesn't mean that they should then be absolved from the death of another human being.
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