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Old 09-17-2013, 12:15 PM
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Default How often do you and your SO fight/argue/disagree?

Just wondering what's normal or average.

How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?

How often do you argue?

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:25 PM
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How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
Rarely. We disagree on things but we both act like adults and (generally) use our words without getting angry.

How often do you argue?
Never? I don't really argue with anyone in a heated manner. I've only ever seen him argue with his sister...

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
Rarely. I've been really angry at him maybe 3 times in the 2+ years we've dated.

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
Not really applicable.

I was super duper excited to find someone as not into fighting as I am. I know it sound silly but it's soooo nice to be with someone who doesn't really get uptight about things. Love it.!
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:28 PM
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How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
We get annoyed and disagree fairly often, but it usually is about little things.

How often do you argue?
We used to argue a LOT, but we don't argue too much anymore. We will snark at each other every once in a while, but we usually laugh about it later. We do argue about finances sometimes, but for the most part we have found a system with handling finances that works for the both of us which has decreased the amount of arguing over finances.

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
Very rarely nowadays

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
We usually solve it but sometimes we will argue over the same stuff. We use to argue so bad and I almost left him over it so we did do counseling and a communications class and that made a big difference in our relationship.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:29 PM
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Whenever he's wrong.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:52 PM
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Well honestly, we are like the Bickersons in our day to day life. But serious arguments or disagreements? Rarely, maybe once or twice a year at most. And knock-down fights? I can't remember the last time.

Honestly I think we just got old and learned to accept each other's quirks and stuff without trying to change them. That goes a long way towards not fighting about stupid sh*t.
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:05 PM
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Whenever he's wrong.
Basically.

How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
Whenever we're in the car. He tries to play with my boobs while I'm driving. NOT SAFE, RICK.

How often do you argue?

Once every few months. Always about moving, which is finally happening soon... so.

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
No.

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
Always moving. Not an issue any longer.

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Old 09-17-2013, 01:26 PM
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We enjoy each other's company - like a lot, which is good because we literally spend all day every day together at work and home.

We (well, I) get annoyed or stressed about silly things at work, usually my colleagues or stupid situations, and sometimes take it out on him for a brief moment until he brings me back to reality and tells me that everything is just fine. In our personal lives, I also get stressed or annoyed with the way he deals with money, but he calms me down in that aspect too and I've learned to be less stingy and uptight about it.

We've never had a heated argument or have been mad at each other for more than 10 minutes.

We have a rule that we can only fight if we're holding hands and/or naked

I don't think there's a normal or average. All people are different and all relationships are unique. It just so happens that K is very level headed and the most patient man I've ever met, and I'm pretty low key as well.
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:31 PM
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GTA5 arrived today as its released here..... I may change my answer as I become an Xbox widow
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Just wondering what's normal or average.

How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
Rarely, I mean sure there are things that are little annoyances but we don't really let it manifest into anything. We are who we are and we don't try to change each other. Most often if he gets annoyed with me it's because I am having a day where i am really down on myself and putting myself down at every turn and that bothers him and he will usually just say "what is wrong with you today that you are being so hard on yourself" and then I usually burst into tears lol and then he just holds me while i cry it out.

How often do you argue?
Almost never, if we do it's usually alcohol induced and it's more nitpicky than arguing and it's usually me that starts it lol

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
Never. We never say mean things to each other. My last relationship was very emotionally abusive and that kind of stuff just makes me shut down. Brian knows this and if he really wanted to he could really abuse that weakness but he's a good man and doesn't ever lash out at me like that. Neither of us believes in saying hurtful things to someone you love just because you are angry.

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
Can't say there is any one thing and we are pretty good at banding together when things get rough... The exception is when I have PMS an then I'm a raving lunatic but again... He's a good man and takes it in stride and knows that it's not personal... It's hormonal lol
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Old 09-17-2013, 05:23 PM
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1. Very infrequently. The times I do get annoyed I keep my mouth shut until the immediate feeling of annoyance is over. If I can't get over it, then I talk with him about it later when I can be rational. There have only been 2 times that I can think of that I've actually just let something fly out of my mouth and then instantly regretted it. Most of the time I realize I am just overreacting and I was getting upset at something he would have had no clue beforehand that it would upset me (like letting his brother in law move my car or not telling me what he wants for dinner). I just try to remind myself not to sweat the small stuff.

2. We have never had an argument.

3. We don't ever have heated discussions or arguments. I experienced this a lot as a.kid with my parents and I try VERY hard to pick my battles and try to remember his thoughts and feelings when I do have something to say. I do not like arguments.

4. We don't argue so I don't feel this applies.
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