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Old 09-05-2013, 11:45 PM
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Ok backstory: I've been communicating with a local cat rescue about fostering kittens. We agree Gracie would do better with young kittens (who have never exxperienced a dog). Yes they will be in seperate rooms and introduced gradually.

Anyway, Cari (the cat lady) tells me she thinks she has a good fit for us. A girl contacted her about taking 2 five week old kittens. They converse back and forth.... Caro finds out one of the pair may be sick. The girl says they don't have the money for vetting. Carie tells her to take it to her vet, she'll take care of it. The girl says it's getting late she'll do it tomorrow! Then the girl will never answer Cari's messages....she never took it to the vet. Carie thinks maybe it died and the girl didn't want to tell her.

Then I remember an ad I 'd seen on Craigslist...2 five week old kittens. They took away from a feral mama. I told Carie I bet they were the same. I contacted the girl, sure enough she sent me the same pics she'd sent Cari. We can't figure out why she quit talking with Cari.
She's more than happy to let me have them and will meet me in town with them asap.



My question is: Should I tell her I'm fostering not keeping these kittens? Does she deserve to know I'm working with the woman she cut off contact with?
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Old 09-06-2013, 12:05 AM
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Nope, JMO, if she was reluctant to allow them to go to a rescue who would pay to help the sick kitten she is probably going to be reluctant to allow them to go to foster.
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Old 09-06-2013, 01:30 AM
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Nope, JMO, if she was reluctant to allow them to go to a rescue who would pay to help the sick kitten she is probably going to be reluctant to allow them to go to foster.
And this is why it isn't OK to lie to her to get what you want. Based on your story we don't know why she severed communication and we don't know of anything she actually did wrong. Apparently she rescued the kittens. So how would you like it if you rescued two kittens and someone lied to you to take the kittens somewhere you didn't want them to go just because they thought what they wanted to do was right and you were wrong?

Now there's a nice run on sentence if ever there was one.
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Old 09-06-2013, 05:50 AM
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Thanks for your opinions. I have another question: How do I tell her now (that I'm fostering not keeping) without freaking her out?
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Old 09-06-2013, 07:34 AM
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I should also add....she told Cari she would take them to the shelter. And after I typed and told her I was interested in them, she typed back: Your welcome to them. Can you come get them soon?
It just screams to me that she wants them gone Yesterday....so I 'm really missing what happened with Cari.
Why would you save them from being feral just to take them to a shelter? Then not give them to a rescue but give them away with no questions asked?
I think maybe Cari wasn't clear on the fact that the vetting would be paid for.

But then I'm scared to death that if I'm totally honest (tell her I'm fostering for Cari's rescue) she'll not give them up and possibly let them die.
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Old 09-06-2013, 08:40 AM
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I definitely wouldn't tell her I was fostering unless it came up. When you get there just say they're really cute, you'll take great care of them, thanks very much.

Could be that she decided they weren't sick after all or not sick enough to bother with a vet and someone promising to pay her back.
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Old 09-06-2013, 10:07 AM
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I took an illegal pit-mix puppy from someone who thought I was keeping it. I had talked to him about why the two pups he had weren't safe (he had NO idea what the BSL here entails) but he was one of those "no one can take my dogs from me!" macho dumbass types. So I told him I wanted the one he was trying to give away and I sent him out of province.

Since then, the one he kept has been reported twice and he ended up moving to a rural area to keep the dog safe.

So, nope, no feelings of guilt here!
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