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Old 07-25-2012, 03:40 PM
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Ok, so I'm having major issues dealing with the Koolies. I really don't like doing things without Traveler and he makes me feel super guilty when I do.

Part of me feels like I need to do more one on one time with Didgie. That feels like it's the "right" thing to do. But at the same time I also feel like the more I do things together with them and get both of them used to being out in public together with me and focusing on me rather than eachother the better.

I end up torturing myself everytime something comes up trying to decide if I should bring Didgie, Traveler or both. Like today I'm going to an agility trial to watch and meet people at the club. Originally I planned on bringing just Didgie since she's never been to that environment before. But then the women I'm going with told me I was more than welcome to bring both and that she won't have her dogs so if I need her to take one she could.

So now I've been sitting at home going back and forth all afternoon. I hate it! It seems so silly but I end up feeling so guilty when I leave Traveler alone but then I keep going "But shouldn't Didgie get one on one time?" but then I go back to her not being dependent on Traveler and how easily she focuses on me even if I have both of them at the same time.

So, how do you guys handle it? What would you do?
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Old 07-25-2012, 03:43 PM
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One on one time is so important at this age. I've found that it's much easier to teach the expected behavior with the puppy by themselves before adding the the other dog into the mix.
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Old 07-25-2012, 03:44 PM
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I rotate a lot. I try to make things fair and even on a weekly and monthly basis as opposed to daily. I also make sure they have plenty of fun while I'm gone with raw bones, treat toys, etc.

I don't like taking more than one unless I'm going to training, my dogs love one on one time and I want to be sure they get it.
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Old 07-25-2012, 03:59 PM
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My situation is a bit different since I've only gotten older dogs (Kimma, the youngest, is the only one I've had since she was a puppy), but I feel the same about her. I HATE leaving her since she grew up getting to go everywhere with me.

But I have noticed a huge difference on days when I do separate stuff with all of them and when I don't. Nothing huge, but I find that they are generally all a bit "on edge" if they haven't had their one-on-one training/exploring/whatever time with me.

So I will usually give the other two something to do (chewies/bones/etc.) while I'm working/out with the other one. Or if my husband is home, the other two get to maybe play with him for a bit. It keeps them all happier and more tired

The other thing that has worked out nicely is getting them all to the point where they can chill when one is being trained. So we might all be out in the yard, but I will only be working Pentti. Or Bubbles or Pen will be in their crate with a chew, while I put Kimma in a down/stay and work whoever is not in the crate.

As far as taking them different places, they all get to go to a pet store generally at least once every couple of weeks, but I really focus on Pentti for this. Bubbles gets to go to shows every once and a while, and Kimma usually tags along - and they each get one-on-one time to talk around/work with me. So that exposes them to different places/people/dogs a good amount.
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Old 07-25-2012, 04:04 PM
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One on one time is so important at this age. I've found that it's much easier to teach the expected behavior with the puppy by themselves before adding the the other dog into the mix.
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I rotate a lot. I try to make things fair and even on a weekly and monthly basis as opposed to daily.
This. Plus, I just bring multiples LOL I set up a/c or fan/crate or whatever needed to make the dog in the vehicle (or building) comfortable and then I bring them each out one at a time for one on one.
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Old 07-25-2012, 04:15 PM
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I just reminded myself a lot how important one on one time was. I felt so bad leaving Dance behind to do things with Ripley when he was a puppy. The only saving grace was that Dance isn't a needy dog in any way, shape or form, so my guilt was needless... but still, it was hard. It was worse when I had Tango and brought Dance home because Tango had been my whole world (dog wise) for 4 years, plus she needed a lot in the way of getting out and doing things. I felt beyond guilty whenever I had to leave her and take Dance out do do puppy things.

But, it's better in the long run to let them have their one on one time. I did quite a few things with my puppies and adult dogs together, but I always tried to give my puppies a ton of one on one time and limit group outings with the whole crew as much as possible. As adult dogs now it's a lot easier, but I still feel guilty if I take one or two dogs with me and leave somebody behind. So now that they're adults and the most crucial part of socialization and real life training is over, they do go a lot of places together just to save me from the guilt. But I also pick and choose different activities with the thought of which dog might benefit from or enjoy a certain activity more, that way I can feel a little less guilty when I just take one dog.

ETA: With as much as they make me feel guilty when I leave them, I also quite enjoy one on one time with each of them too. It's just the initial leaving the house with just one that makes me feel guilty. Once I'm out, I have a great time with whichever dog I decided to take that day.
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Old 07-25-2012, 03:51 PM
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This is an issue with multiple dogs, the adults can always make you feel sooooo bad about leaving them behind. I generally take puppies to most things one on one or if possible take the van and rotate them for things like classes/socialization at dog places or events. For exercise type outings to run or swim, the puppy and adults go and that helps with the pup learning how to be out and about while still focusing on me. For the agility trial tonight, that's something I'd definitely take a puppy to by themselves. It's a great opprunity to work on not just socialization but having the puppy working with you in a new and interesting place. Having two dogs there, even if someone else can help you with holding can really put a damper on the training opprunity with the puppy. It's great she focuses so well on you already and you want to build on that and reinforce it too.

So sorry Traveler but yes, you definitely should be doing things one on one with Didgie right now. Not everything but a lot of things, just like Traveler got a lot of one on one attention when he was her age. Can't help you with the guilt though, my dogs make me feel sad too about leaving them behind too
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Old 07-25-2012, 03:58 PM
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I think one-on-one time is super important.

My moms dogs were the same way.. they work well together, went out together, can focus really easily even with the other dog around.. but now, when they NEED to be separate, it's **** near impossible. Vet visits, groomers, they throw a fit and are stressed out and I just WISH we had pushed solo trips when they were younger.

Sure, at first it may seem unfair, and traveler might be upset (and vice versa) but just like having a new sibling and learning to not be an only child.. you adjust. He will learn that he doesn't get to go EVERYWHERE she goes.. she will learn that sometime you will take just Trav places. It just takes time.

My mom has started taking one of her dogs to work everyday. It is totally unbalanced and pretty unfair lol and at first.. oh god there was a SCENE. but now.. the other dog barely cares, it's simply part of life lol he just looks forward to his solo walk when they get back.
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Old 07-25-2012, 04:16 PM
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Unless I'm just going on a casual walk or to training (where I can crate one), I only take one dog. I even prefer just one dog when we go to shows/trials too.

That said, when I first got Logan I felt AWFUL leaving Gavroche at home, becuase he used to go all over with me - rides in the car anytime I was going somewhere he could go or it was cool enough for him to wait in the car, walks all alone, etc. Then Logan came and he needed the training more. I got over it for the most part with time, but soemtimes I do still feed bad leaving Gavroche at home. He gets to go training about once a week and walks otherwise, so it's not like he's NEVER with me.
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Old 07-25-2012, 04:20 PM
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This is my biggest worry with adding a second in the future. Jackson does practically everything with me that he can... and I honestly can't even imagine taking a new dog somewhere without him! He's my partner in crime, my little buddy. So, ugh, no advice, just saying I know it's so tough when they make you feel guilty.
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