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Old 07-14-2010, 02:10 PM
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Default Parents and kids too........how do you feel about home drug/alcohol screening?

This is something me and a friend were talking about after seeing some news article relating to the subject.

Think it's an invasion of privacy? Think it violates trust? Would you be upset with your parents if they wanted that kind of reassurance from you instead of just accepting your word? I know it's hard to believe, but some kids DO LIE about things like that.......even what most people and society call "good kids" are good at hiding that stuff

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As a parent, if I asked my kids to let me screen them and they were like "Ok......whatever makes you happy" that would probably put my mind at ease and I probably wouldn't bother with the test.

On the other hand, if they flipped out and started yelling about not trusting them blah blah blah.......it would probably make me think they had something to hide and would make me do the test immediately! *shrugs* Human nature I guess, LOL

As a kid (back when I was one) I would have probably rolled my eyes but peed in the cup and let my mom have her way. I don't think it would have made me feel all warm and fuzzy knowing she wanted to, but I also had nothing to hide so it would get done and over with, relieve her mind and I could get on with my life, LOL

So, what do you think?
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:15 PM
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I would have been really hurt if my parents asked for that. I was a good kid, and never gave them any reason to doubt that.

If I had been staying out late, lying about who I was spending time with, etc...well, then fine, that's probably pretty good cause for concern. As it was though, if my parents had asked to test me, it really would have broken the trust in our relationship.
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:15 PM
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I would have screamed and yelled an made a big production.. and I never did drugs etc as a teenager. (though my parents had IMO a very healthy view on drugs and alcohol and teenagers)
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:16 PM
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I can tell you what that would do in a lot of the families I work with...

Cause problems. Massive problems.

So no, I wouldn't be for it.

Educate your kids instead of screen them I say!
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:21 PM
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As a teen I would have just taken the test. My mom asked me to do all kinds of things I didn't want to do like the dishes lol. Peeing in a cup wouldn't have been a big deal.

I don't think I would ask them to do the test unless there was some suspicious behaviour going on. Kids are good at hiding it but there would be SOME sort of indication if you were really looking for it. I don't think I'd just randomly be like HEY pee in this cup would ya lol. But if I felt for some reason this might need to be done I would do it. Will the kid be upset? maybe. but kids are p!ssed off at their parents a lot of time and they'd get over it. I know I was mad at my mom from time to time because maybe I couldn't go to the sleep over or go out of town with a friend or whatever... thousands of different things that left me saying "DON'T YOU TRUST ME. I HATE YOU BLAH BLAH BLAH" and then I'd go slam the door.

but yeah I think I would have to have a reason before I would think of doing it.
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:25 PM
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I would've been really upset had my parents handed me a cup to pee in.

I was a really good kid and never gave my parents a reason not to trust me. It would've offended me but I'd end up doing it because I never had anything to hide. I would think less of my parents though, since I'd feel crappy they didn't trust me.

I hope that it's something I'll never have to do as a parent... that's a really, really hard choice to make. I guess if my kid was caught with drugs in the past or gave me a REASON to run a test on them it would be something I'd consider.
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:28 PM
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I would only do it if my kid had been in serious trouble with drugs before.

If my son gives me no reason to suspect he is doing any drugs or anything, I wouldn't expect him to take a drug test.
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How would you feel if your child requested you prove you didn't take drugs?

Just out of curiosity
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How would you feel if your child requested you prove you didn't take drugs?

Just out of curiosity
I'd laugh at them. My business as a parent is my own business.

Your children are your responsibility as a parent.

As a parent, you are their legal guardian and have the responsibility of raising them. Not the other way around.
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Old 07-14-2010, 02:39 PM
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I'd laugh at them. My business as a parent is my own business.

Your children are your responsibility as a parent.

As a parent, you are their legal guardian and have the responsibility of raising them. Not the other way around.
I asked how you would feel - not whether you would do it

It's all about how you view your relationship I feel.

If the relationship is at the point you are requesting drugs tests - I'd say you need some kind of help to remedy that.

It says a LOT.
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