Puppy is afraid of me for what I did. Is it possible to comfort her? Make her forget?

[BrettL]

Hello, I moved into a new house with my dad, stepmom, and younger step brother. Because we were having a new beggining, we decided to buy a boxer puppy. Her name is Kona, and she is about 6 months old I believe. I give the dog alot of attention because shes so spunky and is great around people and just a great dog, but something just happened and I dont know what to do.


it was around 7 oclock, still perfectly sunny outside. My Stepmom and my Dad were going on a vacation, and asked me to keep the dog outside until I was finished on my workout bike, because she isnt potty trained yet. I put her out at 7:30, and went on my workout bike at that time. At around 8:05, I felt bad for her, so I let her inside.

It was dark outside, and when she came inside she had a very scared look in her eyes, and was breathing hard. Whenever I would try to comfort her or pet her, she would start to back away. And if I would try to pick her up, she would whimper at me and try to bite my hand.

I know what I did was wrong, but will she be afraid of me for a long time? Ive shown her love and affection for close to a month now. My stepbrother seems to annoy her(hes not quite old enough to care for a dog, instead he just barks at the dog which I tell him not to do), my stepmom is the one who punishes her for peeing/pooping inside, yet Kona still likes my stepmom. and my dad doesnt really spend THAT much time with her, yet she still likes him.

I usually play with her alot everyday, and because of what happened it seems like she forgot about that, and is petrified of me. Is there any way I can comfort her, or make her feel better? or will it just scare her more that im trying to comfort her, and should leave her alone because of this. I love this puppy to death, and really want to calm it down

[Richie12345]

I'm not sure what to do, I'm sure tomorrow you will get lots of suggestions... just wait till tomorrow

[BrettL]

ahh, thats fine with me. The only problem I have is that I have to put her in her cage tonight because she isnt potty trained. Maybe I can try to put her in when shes dead asleep? Thats why I posted this now, because I have to put her in her cage in about 2 hours, and she still wont let me hold her because of how scared she is. But hey, thats fine. Any feedback I will be very grateful for.

[Saje]

I'm not sure I totally understand? She's afraid of you because you left her outside? Did you do something else that would scare her like hit her?

You are using crate training to housebreak her? Tell me what you do to crate train her please.

[Fran27]

I think she probably had a bad experience outside, which is why she's scared. Is the yard fenced? Did she cry when you left her there? Where did you get her from if you got her at 5 months?

I don't think it's something you did, either something bad happened while she was outside, or she has bad memories from being outside before you got her.

[poeluvr]

maybe she got bitten so she is afraid..take her to the vet

[Manchesters]

I hate to say it, but if the dog had been inside in her crate with you then you wouldn't have to wonder what happened to her outside. Did your mother tie you up outside before you were toilet trained????? If she didn't, and WOULDN'T do it to a child, then it should not be done to a dog. Get a book from the library on how to use a crate properly to train a dog. And don't put a dog out unless you will be with it to supervise.

Of course, there are thousands of people who throw their human kids out in the yard to fend for themselves......you hear about some of them on the news from time to time.

[yuckaduck]

Wow that is harsh, I have two little kids and Yukon goes out alone because if I go at night my little ones are home alone. So maybe I should just crate him from 6pm until 7:30am instead so he won't have to go outside alone. Or maybe I should leave two little kids home alone to take him out. Nah instead I say grow up to Yukon you should be able to pee all by yourself just once a day. Sure there are scarey things out there but I'm much scarier if ya pee in my house. ;) I only wish I was able to get out there with him at night and get him some serious tuckering out exercise. Of course I would never ever suggest putting any dog outside unless fenced in. Too many things can happen like another dog coming in or around here we have fishiers which have been known to kill dogs.

[Doberluv]

I hate to say it, but if the dog had been inside in her crate with you then you wouldn't have to wonder what happened to her outside. Did your mother tie you up outside before you were toilet trained????? If she didn't, and WOULDN'T do it to a child, then it should not be done to a dog. Get a book from the library on how to use a crate properly to train a dog. And don't put a dog out unless you will be with it to supervise.

Of course, there are thousands of people who throw their human kids out in the yard to fend for themselves......you hear about some of them on the news from time to time.

KNOCK IT OFF!



Brett,

I'm an experienced dog person and I don't think it's some crime to leave a 6 month old dog out to go potty or be outside by itself for a few minutes if the yard is fenced. Something may have frightened her, but she'll be OK. Go out with her for now and don't make a big fuss. It's not a big deal. She'll get over it with your loving care and your care free attitude.

[EliNHunter]

I hate to say it, but if the dog had been inside in her crate with you then you wouldn't have to wonder what happened to her outside. Did your mother tie you up outside before you were toilet trained????? If she didn't, and WOULDN'T do it to a child, then it should not be done to a dog. Get a book from the library on how to use a crate properly to train a dog. And don't put a dog out unless you will be with it to supervise.

Of course, there are thousands of people who throw their human kids out in the yard to fend for themselves......you hear about some of them on the news from time to time.

Yet another lovely, sensitive post by Manchesters :rolleyes:

[Richie12345]

Manchester, I'm gonna let this one go... but if you have something extremely rude to say either

1) Not say it at all
or
2) Be polite, and change the words up a bit so it doesn't sound as rude

[Doberluv]

Yet another lovely, sensitive post by Manchesters

That won't be continuing if I have anything to say about it.

[yuckaduck]

Me either.

[yuckaduck]

What is your problem Manchester? I don't understand how someone can be so nasty? Has something happened lately to upset you? If you need to talk pm me I'll listen but please stop being so nasty here. We are all trying to learn and being so heartless and down right miserable solves nothing. Actually all you are doing is causing people to dislike you and that can't be good. If you need to vent I'm here do it but otherwise lets be nice. Opinions welcome but make it constructive.

[Sheba]

What is your problem Manchester? I don't understand how someone can be so nasty? Has something happened lately to upset you? If you need to talk pm me I'll listen but please stop being so nasty here. We are all trying to learn and being so heartless and down right miserable solves nothing. Actually all you are doing is causing people to dislike you and that can't be good. If you need to vent I'm here do it but otherwise lets be nice. Opinions welcome but make it constructive.
I agree

[Renee750il]

I think Doberluv's got the right idea. I doubt it was anything you did that scared Kona - it was probably something outside, or even just being alone out in the big world. You can't really know what happened to her before you got her. Just treat her normally - you don't want Kona to figure out that treats and other good things happen if she acts frightened) and let her know that she's safe.

[Kade]

If she seems intimidated by you, try spending time qith her in a quiet room -- near her but not actively with her... turn your back and sit quietly with some kibble or treats on the floor around you and in your hands. Let the puppy be near you without feeling your presence as "in her face". Speak to her in a calm, soothing voice -- say her name, tell her she's a good dog, etc. Have a bed or toys or something close to you, but not in a position that she would have to pass in front of you to get to them. Spend some time like this every day until she relaxes enough to get close to you. Don't grab or reach for her -- wait for her to come to you. When she does, give her a special treat and calmly praise her.

Dogs' minds work in mysterious ways -- if your face was the last thing she saw before being left alone outside and frightened (which I don't think was a crime, BTW), your face may trigger a fear response in her.

As for getting a puppy into a crate when s/he doesn't want to go, tossing treats in seems to work pretty well for my puppy.

And you didn't ask, but please gently remind your mother that punishing a dog for going inside does absolutely no good. Dogs can't make the connection between now and five minutes ago -- instead, Kona will decide that your mother hates poop and pee and Kona will be frightened to potty around your mom. If you don't catch the dog in the act, just clean it up -- what's done is done, to a puppy.

Good luck!

[poeluvr]

aww poor manchester, always runs when people talk back to him.. :rolleyes:
why cant you sort it out, u seem to be on ur high horse when talking to one person but when we all say your rude remark was wrong u sciddaddle.......pathetic

[Babyblue5290]

aww poor manchester, always runs when people talk back to him.. :rolleyes:
why cant you sort it out, u seem to be on ur high horse when talking to one person but when we all say your rude remark was wrong u sciddaddle.......pathetic

I yuckaduck might be right.......manchester might have had a bad day or something happen so he/she is acting out, just like you did one time LEA. So give Manchester a chance to appologize or realize how rude the comments where if he/she wishes. If not and he/she keeps making rude comments then we will deal with it when the time calls for it.

[poeluvr]

ecuse me,
i did not act out anymore then u did i made a stupid thread called "what breed do u think is smartest" which caused u to get mad,,,so dont plz bring that up again
and i did not say it in a tone like manchesters, and yuckaduck agrress with me so if u agree with her you agree with me sry to say. i now this because five minutes ago yuckaduck surprisingly sent me a message saying i was 100% right, out of the blue. ask her if u want
...and i made sure i had no broken sentences
babyblue-"its not her fault she keeps making rude comments.." huh?

[Babyblue5290]

ecuse me,
i did not act out anymore then u did i made a stupid thread called "what breed do u think is smartest" which caused u to get mad,,,so dont plz bring that up again
and i did not say it in a tone like manchesters, and yuckaduck agrress with me so if u agree with her you agree with me sry to say.
...and i made sure i had no broken sentences
babyblue-"its not her fault she keeps making rude comments.." huh?

I'm not starting an agrument, I'm just saying I think we should stop attacking manchester now and give him/her a chance to appologise without feeling like everyone here is out to get him/her.
And yuckaduck in a different post said that he/she? thinks we should stop and give manchester a chance to appologize if she/he wishes to.
I didn't say a thing about your sentences and I wasn't bringing up the old thread. I was saying that you too have acted out before when something happened that mad you upset in your life and yes I acted out on that thread too, but I admit that I could have handled myself better in that situation.
And you brought it up before in frans post, naming off "someone" by illiminating me and bigdog.


And where did you get that quote from me? I would like to see that!

[poeluvr]

look in the "firworks pictures " thread ill show u but it will only make u not look good?
yes u were bringing up the old thread by talking about "how i supposedly acted up"
sure ill get it for ya:)

[yuckaduck]

Yes I did pm Lea that I agreed and I do however I also as was just pm ed back believe that perhaps Manchester had a bad day and we should deal with things as they come. I also said that if rude comments keep coming up I am prepared to stand up for what I feel is right. However we can not bash someone for something they may do. I think enough has been said now and the ball is in Manchester's court. Only she can decide if in her heart she feels like she did something wrong. If in her heart she feels she did right than no matter what you or I says nothing will change.

[Babyblue5290]

Yes I did pm Lea that I agreed and I do however I also as was just pm ed back believe that perhaps Manchester had a bad day and we should deal with things as they come. I also said that if rude comments keep coming up I am prepared to stand up for what I feel is right. However we can not bash someone for something they may do. I think enough has been said now and the ball is in Manchester's court. Only she can decide if in her heart she feels like she did something wrong. If in her heart she feels she did right than no matter what you or I says nothing will change.

That's what I was trying to say.....you put it in wonderful words though! :)

[poeluvr]

post #878
in firework pictures, in the fire hydrant ,, sorry but theres prrof u said it
LOL....yes your a bad influence on me ;) Just kidding....lol

I think she called renee stupid! Although the way she types is hard to understand....she doesn't use complete sentences or past/present/future tenses right....that's why I thought she was like 10 0r 11 or something like that.

[Richie12345]

LEA STOP IT!!! Why are you doing this?!? Just forget it! You are going to push this, and then everybody is gonna get mad at each other. And try not going to that thread. I don't look at it at all, anymore, because Nedim wanted me to leave.

[skyhigh]

Would you guys just stop it

[skyhigh]

Hey Richie

[skyhigh]

Gotta go cya

[Babyblue5290]

post #878
in firework pictures, in the fire hydrant ,, sorry but theres prrof u said it

LEA You had brought this up a long time ago when I posted it cause I was upset from the strider thread and I already apologized for my actions and words said many times before. Pleas don't bring that back up, I already admited my actions that day where less than adiquit and so did you so please lets drop that.

[yuckaduck]

Yup agreed time to let it go guys. We understand you don't agree with each other and you don't get along. But we are adults and the young ones act like adults so let by gones be by gones. It is normal not everybody gets along. The world would be pretty boring if we all thought alike and agreed. This is not directed at either one in paticular just let it go. How about some yoga. lol

[poeluvr]

k..i wanna reply back but i wont..i dont understand her so i will drop it..ur right.done sry

[Richie12345]

Lea, I'm sorry for bursting out like that. If you want to yell at me... PM me :D

[yuckaduck]

Lea I can't pm you as you are full up. Will try again later but don't sweat the small stuff.

[poeluvr]

o not full no more..lol

[Doberluv]

Oh good! You settled it among yourselves. Click/treat.

Alpha *itch Doberluv was just about to come and give you all the long down stay command. How scary would that be? LOL. Just kidding.

[poeluvr]

lol(click/treat) lol

[yuckaduck]

We got it all figured out now. Cool eh? We are all wonderful people and it is nice to see so many who care about each others feelings and who care so passionately about there dogs. Keep it up! Good Job!

click "treat''treat' yes a double treat
lol :)

[poeluvr]

LOL...yay

[corey19981]

hi I'm corey! my website address is http://www.coreyjsmith.co.uk

don't listen to what they say about how it is harsh. putting a dog outside for a measly hour is harsh?? I don't think so.