View Full Version : Why We Don’t Step In and Spank When Members Bicker
Renee750il
08-12-2007, 05:35 PM
Most of the time when there is bickering and picking going on you all manage to work it out among yourselves with only a nudge here and there from the moderators.
And that’s as it should be - here.
There are plenty of places on the internet where the moderators keep viewpoints within a narrow range and set circumscribed boundaries for posting, and those places are fine, if you’re happy to hand over your rights to think and express yourself when you have a differing opinion, point of view, set of experiences so that no one gets their toes stepped on or their nose out of joint or has to be exposed to anyone else’s take on a subject. It’s also a good way to run things so that no one learns anything from anyone else, or is forced to examine their own set of opinions and beliefs or even has to stretch a tad to express themselves more clearly. Great places for the self-absorbed, the self-important to define and the rest to bleat in unison.
But that’s just not us.
Sure, it’s a pain in the ass to moderate some of the prize fights here. But it’s rare - if ever - that at least some of the participants don’t come out a little smarter, a little more thoughtful, a little more understanding and a little better as people when the final bell rings.
And when all is said and done, and one of us is falling apart, often it's the person who has been in the ring with that one and gone at it the hardest is one of the first to give a cyber-hug and a cyber-shoulder.
Now, tell me, what could be wrong with that?
Buddy'sParents
08-12-2007, 05:41 PM
Now, tell me, what could be wrong with that?
Nothing, absolutely nothing. :hail: :hail:
Babyblue5290
08-12-2007, 05:49 PM
NVRMND :popcorn:
bubbatd
08-12-2007, 05:50 PM
Throughly agree , Renee !! Very well put !! If anyone disagrees , I can always cut a switch and take them behind my wood shed ! Pants down and over my knee !
Dekka
08-12-2007, 05:58 PM
I like this forum *because* it is not heavily moderated, and people can say what they like, even if it isn't what I like. I love debates :D :D But I hope people can get along on a personal level. I disagree with lots of my friends ;)
iheartsammy
08-12-2007, 06:06 PM
Throughly agree , Renee !! Very well put !! If anyone disagrees , I can always cut a switch and take them behind my wood shed ! Pants down and over my knee !
:lol-sign:
Go Grammy!! :hail:
Psyfalcon
08-12-2007, 06:32 PM
That said, its often a good idea to go back and read this (http://www.chazhound.com/forums/showthread.php?t=30198) sticky once and a while.
Babyblue5290
08-12-2007, 06:35 PM
That said, its often a good idea to go back and read this (http://www.chazhound.com/forums/showthread.php?t=30198) sticky once and a while.
Good! :hail: I couldn't find it! lol
That was a good old post that can remind us that our attitudes sometimes show through our posts, and if we're condescending and belittling, it doesn't get the point across that we're trying to make very well.......unless the point is that we don't think much of the poster we're addressing!!
bubbatd
08-12-2007, 06:45 PM
This is Chaz's forum and I personally think that he has a great thing going . I must add that he doesnt seem to feel that he has to enter here much . He does in the mod section , but it's always for support . I'd love to meet him !
Renee750il
08-12-2007, 06:51 PM
Yup, Psy . . . Mit's post is a classic.
~Jessie~
08-12-2007, 06:57 PM
I like this forum *because* it is not heavily moderated, and people can say what they like, even if it isn't what I like. I love debates :D :D But I hope people can get along on a personal level. I disagree with lots of my friends ;)
I completely agree :D
jess2416
08-12-2007, 07:33 PM
I want a spanking....
:o :popcorn:
Buckshot
08-12-2007, 07:36 PM
I want a spanking....
:o :popcorn:
That would sure be better than being
circumscribed:yikes:
bubbatd
08-12-2007, 08:04 PM
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm I'd go easy on you .......
I want a spanking....
I have a feeling that if I told you to "Go cut me a switch", yould say "F#(% YOU thats the electritians job!"
jess2416
08-12-2007, 08:17 PM
I have a feeling that if I told you to "Go cut me a switch", yould say "F#(% YOU thats the electritians job!"
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Switches hurt.....
bubbatd
08-12-2007, 08:19 PM
Then watch out for Grammy !
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 08:58 PM
ha none of you have found a way yet to keep me, Jess, the Bat , and TM in line lol you don't have enough time lol
Renee750il
08-12-2007, 09:45 PM
ha none of you have found a way yet to keep me, Jess, the Bat , and TM in line lol you don't have enough time lol
You all don't give us any headaches, lol . . . .
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 10:21 PM
You all don't give us any headaches, lol . . . .
Curses I am really slipping here. Ok back to the drawing board
jess2416
08-12-2007, 10:24 PM
Curses I am really slipping here. Ok back to the drawing board
No kidding, its this **** date, I've been slippin...
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 10:26 PM
Well Jess we will have to get our heads wired back on and get these guys the headaches they are asking for LMAO
jess2416
08-12-2007, 10:27 PM
Well Jess we will have to get our heads wired back on and get these guys the headaches they are asking for LMAO
Hahahha...
Renee wasnt thinking when she said that was she....ROFL....
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 10:29 PM
Nope I think we caught her in a weak moment lol
Slackers.
Says the guy who took the weekend off.
Renee750il
08-12-2007, 10:33 PM
Yup. I was thinking. Figured you two would make that kind of noise, but know both of you well enough to know that you're basically too decent and have too much sense of doing what's right to make asses of yourselves.
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 10:35 PM
HARUMPH
jess2416
08-12-2007, 10:36 PM
I cant speak for Joyce, but Renee I think your giving me a little too much credit... I make an ass out of myself all the time....
When am I not making an ass out of myself?
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 10:58 PM
When am I not making an ass out of myself?
Sorry Blue but I think you need a bunch more practice at this. It is a fine art lol
Thats why when I do it its much more obvious.
jess2416
08-12-2007, 11:17 PM
I still want to know when and where and who is going to give me my spanking.....
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 11:18 PM
I still want to know when and where and who is going to give me my spanking.....
Are you looking for a group thing or single ? lol
jess2416
08-12-2007, 11:19 PM
Are you looking for a group thing or single ? lol
Well....
what the hell, the more the merrier.....
Aussie Red
08-12-2007, 11:22 PM
:lol-sign: :lol-sign: :lol-sign:
I knew the answer why did I ask ?:lol-sign:
I still want to know when and where and who is going to give me my spanking.....
I think Im the only electritian here so assume the position.
jess2416
08-12-2007, 11:37 PM
position ASSumed
Single pole, or 3 or 4 way switch?
Or do you care, and just want a handprint on your ass?
jess2416
08-12-2007, 11:43 PM
I'll take 2 hand prints please...
Renee750il
08-12-2007, 11:47 PM
Jess . . . Blue . . . . get a room
Ill be in Asheville in December.
CanadianK9
08-13-2007, 01:35 AM
Spankings?! where?! :D ;)
jess2416
08-13-2007, 05:09 AM
Jess . . . Blue . . . . get a room
leave me alone :o
:lol-sign:
nashnsegersmom
08-13-2007, 02:50 PM
or a hose
Dizzy
08-13-2007, 05:43 PM
Is good! Debate is ALWAYS good... But like many things, there have to be boundaries.
I always find it a bit sad when mods get involved in bickering though. And I have seen a few cases of that.
I understand - they have opinions too... but I kind of feel that a position of mod is a position of trust... and people have to feel confident to approach mods knowing that their query or gripe will be taken seriously. And in an UNBIASED manner.
If you want to bicker and bitch like us mere mortals... I think you should STAY a mere mortal.
And too that end, I think it is wise for mods to stay out of the bicker festivities... But of course - thats is just my lowly opinion ;)
jess2416
08-13-2007, 05:51 PM
Ill be in Asheville in December.
How did I miss this....
Oooo is that an invite....:lol-sign:
bubbatd
08-13-2007, 05:54 PM
Hmmmmmmmm .... but it's our place to sooth the troubled waters .....and we do have opinions .
Aussie Red
08-13-2007, 06:45 PM
Going to say that I feel the mods are a great crew here and are people and forum members first and foremost. If they get in to the bickering it is fine by me. I have seen it and really don't mind it because they are forum members first and mods after they were members. If we want cold detached mods then Chaz needs to find some for that purpose alone and they need to mod and not participate. I am honored that I have become close to some of the mods and am in their daily lives as well as the forum one.
To Chaz mods never change who you are and how you do your job here you are great !!!
bubbatd
08-13-2007, 06:50 PM
Basically it's a great group all around !!! And like all families , we do have our moments !
TheWonderPuppies
08-13-2007, 11:44 PM
But moments are what makes us understand each other batter and make us more like a family chaz wouldnt be chaz without the good the bad and the ugly;)
Renee750il
08-14-2007, 08:47 AM
One of the reasons for having a number of mods is so that one mod doesn't have to shoulder the entire responsibility for one forum - and so that the mods can participate. Face it. If we were Stepford Mods this place would be a whole lot different . . . and those of you who enjoy it here, wouldn't.
And there was a lot of thought that went into asking the various mods to take on the responsibility. All of us are quite different - be design. That makes for a good diversity of opinions and styles so that none of us even inadvertently imposes our own views and personality on the forum, or its members. Kind of helps to guarantee some intellectual and emotional anarchy ;)
One of the reasons for having a number of mods is so that one mod doesn't have to shoulder the entire responsibility for one forum - and so that the mods can participate. Face it. If we were Stepford Mods this place would be a whole lot different . . . and those of you who enjoy it here, wouldn't.
And there was a lot of thought that went into asking the various mods to take on the responsibility. All of us are quite different - be design. That makes for a good diversity of opinions and styles so that none of us even inadvertently imposes our own views and personality on the forum, or its members. Kind of helps to guarantee some intellectual and emotional anarchy ;)
I'm not good with words so will cheat and ditto you :hail:.
jess2416
08-14-2007, 05:40 PM
How did I miss this....
Oooo is that an invite....:lol-sign:
Well............... Hmmmmmmmmm....
I guess he's giving me the boot, instead of the spanking :lol-sign:
noludoru
08-14-2007, 06:40 PM
Great post, Renee...
That's why I love it here. I am on one forum where they do that. It drives me nuts. You can sure as hell bet that I wouldn't be staying if there wasn't so much great information to be had on it, but EVERYTHING gets censored.
Momof2Pups
08-14-2007, 06:48 PM
There's another forum I'm on that closes every thread and deletes every post that disagrees with the general consensus of the forum. It's pretty sad. Many topics are off-limits, and while there are many great people there I don't like it. I still want to be a person with opinions and be allowed to express them. I really appreciate the mods here and the freedom they/you give us to work out our problems instead of having to dive in if someone disagrees in some way. Sometimes people need a mod intervention when they won't chill out or there are severe unjustified personal attacks but a lot of the times people can work it out.
shadowfacedanes
08-14-2007, 07:08 PM
I'll take 2 hand prints please...
Hannah said she's cancelling the play date invite. No freakies allowed. :p
jess2416
08-14-2007, 07:25 PM
Hannah said she's cancelling the play date invite. No freakies allowed. :p
Oooooo thats sooooo wrong...
:p
shadowfacedanes
08-14-2007, 07:29 PM
Okay, well she says she's changed her mind....You and Chloe can still come over, but she wants no part of the spanking game.
Well............... Hmmmmmmmmm....
I guess he's giving me the boot, instead of the spanking :lol-sign:
I was letting you know I was gonna be in the area.
Its up to you to do the invitin.
jess2416
08-14-2007, 08:04 PM
I was letting you know I was gonna be in the area.
Its up to you to do the invitin.
I know that :p
How is that going to look me invitin myself ROFL
I'll take 2 hand prints please...
Hannah said she's cancelling the play date invite. No freakies allowed. :p
And just how is that freaky?
I know that :p
How is that going to look me invitin myself ROFL
So you just want me to barge right in and dispense with the spankins?
Youll have to PM me your address if thats the case.
jess2416
08-14-2007, 08:09 PM
So you just want me to barge right in and dispense with the spankins?
Youll have to PM me your address if thats the case.
Well, now that you mention it...
the surprise spankins are the best ones... cause they catch you off guard and make you say Oooo !!!!!
Aside from the friends I've made here, I stay because I love the freedom that the mods and admins give the members here. There are no banned topics, threads aren't locked willy-nilly and healthy debate is encouraged. What better way to get a broader view of things than to listen to everyone's point of view? Silencing the minority just because they disagree really irks me, and I consider Chazhound my internet home because it's the only dog forum I've found that encourages tolerance of others' opinions. Nobody is saying people need to agree all the time, but I think as long as someone can clearly and politely (within reason. everyone gets mad sometimes.) express their opinion, they are contributing something to the community.
Yay, Chazhound! :) lol
Here's some modding..Jess...Blue...take it to PM's as it is so very OT. :)
jess2416
08-14-2007, 08:29 PM
Here's some modding..Jess...Blue...take it to PM's as it is so very OT. :)
Thats not fair why are you always on my case.... I see that you mods have your favorites :rolleyes:
:popcorn:
Just kidding you know I love you guys and gals :D
Well, now that you mention it...
the surprise spankins are the best ones... cause they catch you off guard and make you say Oooo !!!!!
Now your just toying with me.
bubbatd
08-14-2007, 09:42 PM
HHmmmmm !!! I think you're all taking spanking to extreme !!!! Only Grammy should do spanking here !!! ( Wow ! wonder if I can find my black boots ! )
jess2416
08-14-2007, 09:43 PM
HHmmmmm !!! I think you're all taking spanking to extreme !!!! Only Grammy should do spanking here !!! ( Wow ! wonder if I can find my black boots ! )
ROFL Grammy hahahahah....
And since spanking is part of this threads title, I feel slighted over being modderated for my part of this discussion.
Renee750il
08-14-2007, 09:45 PM
Well, Blue, if it makes you feel better, think of it as, rather than being moderated, having been spanked.
jess2416
08-14-2007, 09:46 PM
And since spanking is part of this threads title, I feel slighted over being modderated for my part of this discussion.
Me too....
Is something going to be done about this...
Since the actual topic was about Mods spanking members ?? :popcorn:
Me too....
Is something going to be done about this...
Since the actual topic was about Mods spanking members ?? :popcorn:
Is that like God killing kittens?
jess2416
08-14-2007, 09:50 PM
Is that like God killing kittens?
No silly.... that is totally different...
ToscasMom
08-14-2007, 10:02 PM
I guess I will have to go elsewhere for spankings. What a bummer.
Renee750il
08-15-2007, 01:10 AM
I guess I will have to go elsewhere for spankings. What a bummer.
Heheh . . . that's what happens when you side with the fembots, TM - you miss out on the fun parts - or have to play solitaire ;)
ToscasMom
08-15-2007, 01:55 AM
Well I see that Jess feels like I do! We want our spankings! Arrange it!
ToscasMom
08-15-2007, 01:57 AM
Wow ! wonder if I can find my black boots ! )
Speeding tickets! Restraining Orders! And now this! Grammy you are a Wild Woman!
Doberluv
08-15-2007, 09:19 AM
There are one or two other forums, one that I was on originally and for a long time. It use to be good. But with a rotation of moderators and admin, it has become the epitome of Stepford. There are scarcely more than 3 or 4 people on there at any given time and if you read a thread or post, you can be sure nothing new will have been added if you check back any sooner than 3 or 4 days. It's so dragging you can't imagine.
I'm a mod there also and I brought it up that is was way over moderated and one of the admin agreed with me, or so it was said and changes were going to be made. But nothing changed. Stepford all the way. In the mod forum there, it's all about nit picking one word or phrase someone said and should this be deleated and the person p.m'd....it's always very inoccuous stuff. Here, on the Chaz forum, it's mostly us mods talking about personal stuff, like, "I mowed the lawn today." Or....some gross dirty joke that we just can't post on the main forum. There is a limited amount of bitcing about who said what and should that be allowed. I mean, it comes up, but it's not so excessive like the Stepford forum. (s)
So, yes....to have an opinion sometimes includes one's personality and a little leeway is natural. This forum is the busiest, most crowded place. It's better for business that way as well. And with all the passion, even with the risk of sometimes getting carried away, I never saw a more close bunch of cyber friends and more caring. So, yeah Chaz!!!
Denaluvscorgis
08-15-2007, 11:35 AM
Darn it....I was actually kind of looking forward to a spanking!!!!:D
ToscasMom
08-15-2007, 12:14 PM
Here ya go Dena. What are friends for, right???
http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k298/ToscasMom/beatdown2.gif
http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k298/ToscasMom/bangin.gif
http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k298/ToscasMom/fishslap.gif
Denaluvscorgis
08-15-2007, 12:49 PM
ROFL.........you're too good to me TM!!! :D:hail:
ToscasMom
08-15-2007, 01:51 PM
Hey Dena, anything for a friend.
http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k298/ToscasMom/bicycle.gif
Denaluvscorgis
08-15-2007, 02:01 PM
I always know that I can count on you!!;)
ACooper
08-17-2007, 06:57 AM
I would like to say that THAT is one of the things I love about Chaz.
The mods really have a feel for when to step in or when to lock up a thread. I mean HELLO.....if a thread offends you, or you feel like you are fighting a losing battle.........LEAVE THAT THREAD. Don't click it back open, there is no one forcing you into a thread, and no one MAKING you respond to people who annoy you.
Sometimes a heated debate is good for the ticker :D and sometimes not so much............Here at Chaz, we have the freedom most of the time to decide for ourselves when enough is enough for us, SOME people need to learn when to exercise that freedom instead of waiting until they are so upset they want to leave the forum.
Ok, I'm done now ;)
Denaluvscorgis
08-18-2007, 02:33 PM
I would like to say that THAT is one of the things I love about Chaz.
The mods really have a feel for when to step in or when to lock up a thread. I mean HELLO.....if a thread offends you, or you feel like you are fighting a losing battle.........LEAVE THAT THREAD. Don't click it back open, there is no one forcing you into a thread, and no one MAKING you respond to people who annoy you.
Sometimes a heated debate is good for the ticker :D and sometimes not so much............Here at Chaz, we have the freedom most of the time to decide for ourselves when enough is enough for us, SOME people need to learn when to exercise that freedom instead of waiting until they are so upset they want to leave the forum.
Ok, I'm done now ;)
Well said Angie!!:hail:
I'm new to this forum, so please, bear with me.
I value freedom of speach. Passionate debates are fine as long as no one starts name-calling. That is, debate ideas or facts, don't debate someone's character. If someone's character is out of line for the forum, the mods can deal with that issue specifically. Most times, I've seen people handle it quite well amongst themselves.
I've known a few people with whom I disagree on some basic things but we are still friends because we don't call names.
To put it another way, you could tell me I'm flat out wrong and that's fine, because that's a difference of opinion or a statement of fact, in that I could be wrong. But if you were to call me names, well, that might be against forum rules but I just take the names and wear them as a badge of honor.:)
Any natural conversation will also include drift. The topic can morph or sidestep on a tangent related to the primary subject.
Maybe it's just me. It's hard to get my feelings hurt since I had them surgically removed years ago and I'm too old and tired to go and get some more put in.
jess2416
08-23-2007, 05:04 PM
I'm new to this forum, so please, bear with me.
I value freedom of speach. Passionate debates are fine as long as no one starts name-calling. That is, debate ideas or facts, don't debate someone's character. If someone's character is out of line for the forum, the mods can deal with that issue specifically. Most times, I've seen people handle it quite well amongst themselves.
I've known a few people with whom I disagree on some basic things but we are still friends because we don't call names.
To put it another way, you could tell me I'm flat out wrong and that's fine, because that's a difference of opinion or a statement of fact, in that I could be wrong. But if you were to call me names, well, that might be against forum rules but I just take the names and wear them as a badge of honor.:)
Any natural conversation will also include drift. The topic can morph or sidestep on a tangent related to the primary subject.
Maybe it's just me. It's hard to get my feelings hurt since I had them surgically removed years ago and I'm too old and tired to go and get some more put in.
Thats all fine and dandy but what does that have to do with spankings :p
Thats all fine and dandy but what does that have to do with spankings :p
Oops ... my bad.:popcorn:
Sounds like you'll fit in fine Ron. :)
ToscasMom
08-23-2007, 05:25 PM
Beat me! Beat me! Make me write bad checks!
jess2416
08-23-2007, 05:46 PM
Its quite alright ;)
I noticed you said you were an electrician...:popcorn:
Where were you when this was going on....:p
I think Im the only electritian here so assume the position.
position ASSumed
Single pole, or 3 or 4 way switch?
Or do you care, and just want a handprint on your ass?
Its quite alright ;)
I noticed you said you were an electrician...:popcorn:
Where were you when this was going on....:p
I was replacing a lighting contactor for wall packs and a pole light at an office complex. So, I was already in position.