Puppy behavior problems

[seattlecorgiowner]

Hello,

I am wondering if someone can help me. I have a 7 month old Corgi. He is the most adorable and loving dog. There is a problem though - my boyfriend didn't want me to get the dog but I got him anyway. My bf is not affectionate towards him and yells at him a lot for normal 'puppy' behavior. About a month ago my pup started to become very scared/aggressive towards my bf. When he picks my pup up the pup will bark, growl and even look like he will bite. He also will pee submissively. In fact, whenever my bf is alone with my pup - the pup will growl etc.

I really don't know what to do - because my puppy absolutely loves everyone else and Im tired of playing referee. I don't know how to fix this problem - any advice?

thanks :confused:

[bubbatd]

Get rid of him !!!!! The boy friend that is !

[GSDMom]

dogs are very good judges of people

I agree GET RID OF THE BOY FRIEND
your puppy is trying to tell you something !

[Saje]

You shouldn't have gotten the pup in the first place that is if you live with your boyfriend. If not then just keep them separated while you decide if you want to be in that relationship.

You can't make your bf into something he's not. And I really don't believe in bringing an animal into a family where not everyone wants it.

[Gempress]

This isn't a behavioral problem. Your dog is scared of your boyfriend, and has every good reason to be afraid. Your boyfriend didn't want a dog in the first place. Neither of them deserve to be in that situation. I'd either find the puppy a good home, or cut the boyfriend loose.

To be completely blunt, I'd think long and hard about the boyfriend. A dog was something you really wanted, but he didn't want to let you have one. He absolutely did not want a dog, but you got one anyway. To me, that indicates that there are lot of issues going on in your relationship. I have a feeling this puppy problem is just an indicator of things to come if you two don't work out where you stand, both in your relationship and in your respect of each other.

[Barb04]

I do agree, if the boyfriend stays, find the pup a good home to go to. It sounds like your boyfriend is not the type of person to have a pet.

[Doberluv]

I'd get rid of the b.f. If he's that cold hearted toward a little puppy, how will he be to you some day in the future. He sounds like he has no empathy. If he can mistreat an animal, he can mistreat anyone. It was not good to get the puppy when he didn't want one, but you did. Now he's taking his anger which he probably has toward you...out on the pup. He'll ruin the dog. He already is. Either get rid of the b.f. or the pup.

[filarotten]

Dump the bf. If he is abusive to animals, he will be that way to you.

[rottnpagan]

I'm jumping in and agreeing with everyone. One or the other should go. Personally, the boyfriend would be cut loose in my opinion, because I absolutely could not fathom seeing myself with an animal abuser. :mad:

The puppy submissively peeing or growling only at that one person, IMO, is an indicator that something else is happening when you're not there. If you care for the wellbeing of this pup (and I think you do, or you wouldn't be here!), DO NOT LEAVE him alone with your boyfriend.

Best of luck.

[Brattina88]

Give the Corgi to me and get rid of the boyfriend :) LOL just kidding ...
mostly...

Have you tried to have a serious talk with your b/f. You might need to explain to him why you got the puppy (tell him that you didn't get the pup just to make him mad :P ). You need to seriously think about that answer before you talk with him. If the b/f really 'loves' you than I think you should be able to make him understand.
Tell your boyfriend that You need to handle Any and all training/correcting, so he doesn't feel the need to yell when the pup is doing normal puppy behaviors. And keep on top of it so he doesn't feel the need to yell. Explain why you don't yell, or why you handle curtain situations with the pup the way you do. Explain that his threatening actions is making the pup fearful and he could become a fear biter if he doesn't stop now.
Communication is the key, and who knows what the outcome might be.
Keep us posted, HTH

[BudgetsDad]

The fact that he is so mean to the puppy might be an indicator of how could treat you and your children later on. It sounds like its not just a matter of not liking dogs. He is making the puppy afraid of him. That is not a good sign.

[nedim]

Lol, I'd be happy to take your corgi. peanut would love a playmate.lol

But seriously, it was kind of irresponsible of you to do what you did. You brought the dog into a home where there is now hostility because of it. I say cut your b.f. Your dog will be a much better friend and will stick by your side. Also, corgis are just plain adorable.lol. I know, I have one.

[BigDog2191]

Well, I would've probably done the same thing. You have control over your life and YOU can decide whether or not to get a dog or not.

Tell your BF that he needs to cooperate, really it's a good judge of character to see how a so-called BF, will react to a new situation such as a dog. If he says no and that the dog has to go, IMO, you should get rid of HIM.

[showpug]

I have to say, you created this problem and you should not have gone against your BF's wishes in the first place especially if you share a home. In my opinion, you have two choices...

1.) Place the dog in a loving home where all family members accept the pup.

OR

2.) Get rid of your boyfriend.

Hoping to change your boyfriend or his actions is a rediculous and pointless way of thinking. It will also cause more resentment in your relationship. Personally, I would never go against my husbands wishes on a major decision like getting a dog, but if I did and he was doing what your bf is doing I would thank him for the warning and kick him to the curb.

[Dixie]

I agree with everyone above... you know youre two choices now decide, I think everyone has leaned towards getting rid of the boyfriend. Good luck with whatever you choose.

-Dix

[amymarley]

You obvious have a passion for wanting a pet... the boyfriends come and go... if he does not have the same passion as you do, then you are not "soul mates" and maybe not meant to be together. I don't know you or your man, but if any man in my life past, present and future, if I had a problem with my man about with my pets, they are so out the door. You, I would think, would want someone who "is your better half." Someone who supports you in your time of need, wants, regrets, passions, love for animals,,,,etc...
I don't know how old you are, but you have a choice.... either stay with the guy and the dog.......which will make all 3 of you crazy. Get rid of the dog, which you will hate your self one day, because you are prob. not going to be with this guy forever, or get rid of the bf, because he can't repest your needs. In your heart of hearts, do you really think this is THE guy for you, that you will be with forever? These are your choices...

[BudgetsDad]

I don't think this should necessarily be an issue of your man or your dog. Some people are just not animal lovers, but it doesn't make them bad people. My mother would never tolerate any animals in the house, nor would she get near them. She didn't hate them, she just didn't like being near them, yet she was always a good mother and a good person. So I think its a mistake to say if he doesn't like my dog, then he's gone.

However, the thing that concerns me about your situation is that your bf has made the puppy (who loves everyone else) afraid of him. It makes me wonder what he has done to the puppy while you are not watching. If he has been abusive to a little dog, I promise you, he can be abusive to others, even people. Of course, you know the situation best, and have to make the best judgement.

[Kaleigh'sAdrienne]

Puppies need loooooooove not someone shouting at them. Could create problems in the future if not now. I'd say talk to your BF about the puppy and maybe come to some kind of agreement like.. he dosent have to like the puppy but he dosent have to yell at it etc.. and if that dosent work then maybe you should consider finding the puppy a good home... I personally dont think you need to break up with your BF over it because I dont know what your relationship is with him and frankly its none of my buisness.. however.. as I said.. puppies do need LOVE and lots of it. :)

[Dizzy]

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[Corgi411]

I dont think you have to get rid of either one. Obviously you like your BF and the pup, just tell your BF that he needs to be nicer to the puppy. Maybe he isn't a Dog person. Have your BF change is attitude slightly, maybe have him give the puppy a treat once in a while.how could someone not like a corgi they are so cute its amazing...But he definetly shouldn't be mean to the puppy that just puts him in the @ hole category.

You dont live in CT do ya because I have a corgi and ummm....well.....


Best of luck though

[femke]

Well, I would've probably done the same thing. You have control over your life and YOU can decide whether or not to get a dog or not.

that all depends on if they are living together or not... if not then I agree it's your life your home your choice. But if they are living together... well you cant' just decide something on your own because it's your life.... because you happen to share that life with someone that doesn't enjoy having a dog around. Living together and being in a relationship you're both gonna have to compromise and talk things over...

but anyways I would have a talk with the BF. Explain him that it's not the pup's fault and that the poor thing shouldn't have to suffer for it, also that his behaviour can do permanent damage to the dog... if he's not willing to change his ways I agree... dump him or find the puppy a different home where it will be loved by everyone.

[amymarley]

I may have been a bit harsh on my post, but didn't mean to be. I guess I was just thinking the way I would think. First off, the puppy is a puppy and should not be yelled at like that. You may love your boyfriend, but my post above was to ask yourself, "is this the guy for me"? I didn't marry until I was 30 years old, been through boyfriends, but my dog(s) were always with me. Although I have had great relationships, and none of my ex-boyfriends have anything bad to say about me, nor I to them, it just didn't work out. However, my dogs, cat, and parrots have been there, my dog(s) were always there....that's why I love working with animals.... non judgemental, always loyal and etc... That's all I was trying to say. My question to you is....why is your boyfriend yelling at your puppy? If he can get so annoyed over a puppy, what will annoy him in the future? I am not saying he is a bad person. Maybe, you can bring him into "your animal world." Not all people grew up with dogs and just don't understand.
Amy