I need help (not a doggie issue)

[MyDogsLoveMe]

Ok all let me sum this up. My wonderful 16 yr old has decided that moms rules are not rules she wants to or intends to follow. Here are the rules. get you chore (1) done each day before the net, telephone or TV, Keep your rooms cleaned and laundry done, no phone after 10 pm, if your going out and plans change call me so I no where you are and be home on time (which is 11 or 12) and if your not then call me with a valid reason and not an excuse and last but not least DO NOT LIE TO ME any lie you tell me or any excuse chances are that I have already thought of it or used it at your age. Well she ran away from home 2 weeks ago, no idea where she is, she wont call home, she has been placed on the NCIC as a runaway. I am besides myself. I dont know what to do. I cant sleep which in turn is reeking havoc on my back, my nerves are about shot and all I do is cry...... Please does anyone have any suggestions or advice because I dont know what to do. I call local hospitals to see if they have any jane does, check with her friends as they all know she is gone. We did have a lead on a telephone number she was at but when we called it she took off. The phone number was traced to this persons mom and the cops did make a phone call to advise them on the law of harboring a runaway. Any suggestions big or small would be appreciated more than you can imagine. To top it off its the big 39 today and my life is missing one big part off it :(

[skyhigh]

Stick in there. My older brother ran away once. Had a big fight with my mum. Came back eventually. (((Hugs))) at this time. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[IlUvMyAnImAlZ05]

Oh mygoodness! I feel so bad for you! She'll come back! I will be praying for you and her! My mom has the same rules with my sister.The police will find her if she doesn't come back on her own.Happy B-day! Stop the crying and know shes coming BACK!
Your in my thoughts and prayers.
Mandy
PS:If you need to talk you can also email me privatly.

[IlUvMyAnImAlZ05]

What is your daughters name?
Mandy

[MyDogsLoveMe]

Thanks for the support. Yes it is indeed stressful. This isnt the first time she has done this but this is the longest she has been gone and with no call scares me to death.

[gapeach]

All I can do is give you my thoughts and prayers. I am deeply sorry. I would also suggest you talk to the other mom face to face and maybe she would give up any info she might would have. My sister also ran away when I was young, the police found her. It's so difficult to keep kids under raps when they don't like the house rules, just know that you haven't been unreasonable or unfair, she just thinks so right now. Happy B day, btw, but I'm sure you could care less about that right now. I'm the mother of a two year old little girl so I have not dealt with this, but I suppose my time will come. I know your heart and mind must never stop churning, Bless your heart, I can't imagine! I'll pray she returns home soon.
Hugs,

another Cindy

[Babyblue5290]

What about looking at like homeless shelters or something?? I don't know I was just thinking maybe if she needed some place to go she might go to one of them if she was desperate. I'm really sorry for this to be happening.

[Love4Pits]

Take it from a former Runaway (I ran away twice when I was a teen both times with my dog). I always tried to get as far away as i could that meant the friend house farthest from my parents. If they would'nt keep me I wondered around trying to find a place to sleep ( not too many places around here like shelteres but if there was I would go there if i friend would'nt take me). I returned once on my own I was only gone for almost a week and I was 14 this was when my dad was at his worst in his drinking problems (he will tell you he puts his dogs before his family). I came back on my own simply out of guilt, home sickness, and simply because I realized i had no where else to go. Also it hit me I had hurt my mum and she wasent the one I was out to hurt.

I ran away again about 2 years later was almost gone for a month when I was finally caught (I was just going from friends house to friends house i was surprised I got away with it that long). I wasent a bad kid i just had a bad habit of running away from my problems.

Im just trying to give you some ideas of where your daughter might be or what she might be doing or thinking. I probley did'nt help but im just trying to bring some insight? I am so sorry you are going through this.

[juliefurry]

I would check any friends houses, boyfriend's houses, local hotels, homeless shelters. Do you know of any forts or anything that her and her friends may hang out at? I know the last thing sounds sort of lame but when I got mad at my parents I'd pitch a tent in the field behind my house and stay there until I got lonely or someone came and got me. She'll come home eventually though, she'll get caught. Seeing as she is still near you guys she'll get caught or come back on her own. Don't worry, it'll be ok. I'll give you my biggest HUG that I can.

[Zoom]

My junior high best friend started running away a lot. She eventually calmed down and is doing well these days.

And quite frankly, those are not bad house rules at all. Very similar to what mine were at her age. She should go talk to someone who has deal with daily beatings, alcoholism or molestation and then see how bad she thinks her home life is. I think she just needs a swift kick in the ass reality check. I thought my home life sucked until I went to college and started to talking to other people and came to the conclusion that while I resented many of the rules, at least my parents were sane, sober and loved us as well as (only) each other.

[Love4Pits]

My junior high best friend started running away a lot. She eventually calmed down and is doing well these days.

And quite frankly, those are not bad house rules at all. Very similar to what mine were at her age. She should go talk to someone who has deal with daily beatings, alcoholism or molestation and then see how bad she thinks her home life is. I think she just needs a swift kick in the ass reality check. I thought my home life sucked until I went to college and started to talking to other people and came to the conclusion that while I resented many of the rules, at least my parents were sane, sober and loved us as well as (only) each other.
I was thinking the exact same thing.